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new mom must haves by Pamela pekerman

New Mom Must Haves, As Seen On TV

Hey Mamas,

So, I’ve been getting around the country (Washington, D.C., Miami, Dallas) sharing new mom must haves, while trying to manage my own mama drama – hello sick kids galore and a new house that we likely will not move into until late 2018!

Any who, today is the first day in nearly three weeks that both kids are not sick, and, thus, attending daycare. With a slew of “free time” on my hands, I wanted to share my new mom must haves with all of you.

If you’re expecting a little munchkin, or know someone who is, check out these great products and services that will make motherhood a little easier – just a little.

NEW MOM MUST HAVES

Medical Innovations

New Mom Must Haves Medical Innovations

PreTRM, preterm blood test for premature birth
I can’t stop talking about this important blood test, which is a clinically validated prenatal blood test women can take to determine their risk of delivering prematurely. Results can now empower moms and their doctors to better manage and prolong their pregnancy and improve the health of the baby. Check out my full blog post about this new mom, game changer.

Pacidose Pacifier Medicine Dispenser ($14.99)
If you’ve ever tried to give a baby medicine you know all about the mama drama that can occur. Pacidose attaches to a hospital-grade oral syringe for perfect measurement, and a tiny tube down the middle that prevents the liquid from being wasted in the nipple. It’s a fuss-free, safer and more effective baby medicine dispenser.

TempTraq Wireless, wearable thermometer ($19.99)
When babies are sick, the last thing you want is to wake them up for a temp check. TempTraq monitor fevers continuously via an FDA-cleared, wearable, wireless temperature monitor in the form of a soft patch that continuously senses, records and sends temperature data to mobile devices through the free TempTraq app. Mamas, you can receive alerts when a child’s temperature hits a user-set red zone level. Otherwise, just keep sleeping.

Dream Support Team

Baby Brezza Formula Pro, Formula Mixer & Dispenser ($179)
The Formula Pro is the best way of prepare your baby’s formula bottles. It uses patented technology to measure, dispense and mix water and powdered formula to the perfect temperature and consistency! No more midnight formula mixing and mess ups!

Baby Brezza Safe + Smart Bottle Warmer ($69.99)
App-Connected Bottle Warmer that saves you time and energy! Mom can enjoy a 5-minute (yes that counts) power nap, or go to the lady’s room with peace of mind. The only Bluetooth-connected bottle warmer to warm both breast milk + formula. Its integrated Bluetooth capability – allows you to receive notifications from a smartphone app once the bottle is ready.

Baby2Body Digital Content Platform for Expectant and New Moms
Beyonce and Amal Clonney don’t get generic baby advice, and neither should you. They have a dream team of support and this new iOS app gives new and expecting mom’s direct access to the same star treatment. Basically it’s a personalized nutritionist, stylist and motivational expert in the palm of her hands… guiding women through all their trimesters and beyond.

New Mom Must Have Products

Better Bed Time

Olababy Trimmo Electric Nail File ($39.95)
Trimming babies nails isn’t just a beauty ritual, it’s a medial must. It’s also a maddening fuss!!! The Olababy Trimmo is an electric nail file designed for parents to delicately, yet effectively trim their baby’s soft, growing nails. It features a central disk with a rotating buffer pad that can be interchanged with various grit sizes to trim babies’ nails at 0 months through 12+ months.

Nanit by PENSA Re-imagined Baby Monitor ($279 + $50/year for insights)
Forget what you know about old-school baby monitors! Nanit is the smartest baby monitor ever because it learns how your baby moves, and tells you if they’re fussy, awake or sleeping like a dream. Insights help parents identify sleep issues, track sleep patterns, parent visits, room conditions and much more. Plus, a Sleep Score let you know if baby’s sleep is improving.

Kepi Kozy Kit safer swaddle($98)
Kepi Kozy Kit is the first-ever swaddling system to support and protect newborn’s head, neck, and spine thanks to a clever “spoon” nicely tucked under the swaddle. The design allows friends and family, from the youngest to the oldest, to support and hold a baby without worry. Seriously, this is the safest, smartest way to swaddle your baby.

New Mom Must Haves Baby Sleep Aid

Looking for more, new mom must haves? Check out my TV segments from ABC’s Good Morning Washington, NBC’s Miami 6 In The Mix, and EyeOpener TV syndicated to several markets including my new #CityCrush Dallas.

Pam does Miami
NBC6 6 in the Mix with (mom of two) Roxanne Vargas

Pam does Dallas
EyeOpenerTV with (new mama) Neeha Curtis

Pam does Washington, D.C.
Good Morning Washington with Autria Godfrey

Screaming at Your Toddler, How I Blew My Lid & Why I Want to Wine About It

The lid was blown. I had had enough. It was only 9:05am.

But, we were late to daycare. I called to make sure they would still provide breakfast. Breakfast usually ends at 9:20am. We just left the house. Daycare is a 10-15minute drive from the house.

The lid was blown. I had had enough. It was only 9:05am.

But, she was so cranky this morning. Getting dressed was a disaster. Brushing hair was brutal. Eating fruits and taking vitamins was on a whole new level of bad behavior.

The lid was blown. I had had enough. It was only 9:05am.

Did I mention it was only 9:05am?

But, from 6:45am – 9:05am there was whining, squirming, misbehaving, screaming, crying … Did I leave out any other naught –ing words?

Oh, and, a female-favorite, changing her opinion.

So, YES at 9:05am, in route to daycare, after barely leaving the house and being on the road for all of two minutes, during which time she asked – correction: whinnied and cried – for her pink bag, which she had dropped to the floor at the start of our journey. In between explaining to her that mommy cannot stop the car until we get to day care, she decided to get on another rant involving asking – correction: whining and crying – for me to turn on / turn off “ballet music” (it’s what she calls the classic station).

SCREAM!!!!

The lid was blown. I had had enough. It was only 9:05am and I screamed at my daughter in a voice and tone I don’t even use on adults.

She quietly whimpers. I quietly drive in shame.

Screaming at your toddler leads to nothing. It’s a fool’s tool to get children to stop whatever it is we want them to stop. And, it doesn’t usually work. It might scare them, shock them or both. But, it teaches nothing of substance.

I’m all for using a slightly harsher tone, but screaming is low brow. I don’t do anything to my children that I don’t want them to do to me or others, i.e. screaming or spanking.

My normal response in hard-to-handle, where-is-my-eject-button situations it to talk through it, raise my voice just enough to create a change, and state that there will be a punishment if the action doesn’t stop. Punishment usually involves sitting in “the cage” until I feel they have learned their lesson, apologized, and explained why they were punished.

Side bar: “the cage” is actually a 3ftx3ft area we created from colorful playpen walls used to keep kids in a set, safe place.

Where was I, oh, yes, screaming and blowing my lid!

Another tactic I use to avoid going off the rales, is singing.

I find it helpful to sing really ridiculous songs, while my toddler (or toddlers, if they are double teaming me) is crying or making ridiculous demands in a whining voice.

Sanity songs of choice include: Katy Perry Roar, Dolly Parton 9-to-5, and Chicago’s Cell Block Tango

She had it coming … She had it coming … She had it coming all along … If you’d have been there, if you’d have seen it … I betcha you would have done the same …

Oops, sorry. Back to 9:05am.

It was 9:05am. I’m only human. Okay, I’m a mom, so I’m actually super human. But, even super humans have lids that sometimes burst.

To all the moms that have blown their lids, I feel you. We are on a crazy journey. Some days our kids are angels, other days they are monsters. Some days we sing. Some days we scream. But, every day truly is a blessing!

Oh and TODAY is National Drink Wine Day.

Blow off some steam over a glass of your choice. I’ll  be enjoying a sweat Moscato from Bartenura.

If you’re up for a chat, let’s tweet while we drink. Join me from 9 – 9:30pm to talk about toddlers, tantrums and how we deal with crazy mornings! I’m @PamelaPekerman and the hashtag will be #WineandScreams … get it wine and scream … wine and cheese … whining and screaming

Always Be Your Best You Pamela Pekerman Signature

 

Day in The Life of Motherhood

Motherhood A Day in the Life aka Why Bother Making Plans

Motherhood A Day in the Life … So, where should I begin … oh, yes, 1am!

1amMs. Ilana Rose (now 2.5-years-old) is whining/sobbing. “Mama, ahah pee pee”. Wait, what? We sleep through the night. But, Okay,  you’re having bowel issues.

5am– Ms. Ilana Rose (who started daycare last week) is whining/sobbing. “Mama, ahah pee pee”. Wait, what? We sleep through the night. But, Okay, you’re a bit off since starting daycare.

5:10am – I’m not moving and not sleeping. Icing up the lower back/coxic bone area with Dr. Teal’s Muscle Relief Cream. Two toddles is no joke.

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5:15am – 5:45am Ms. Ilana Rose doesn’t want to sleep and I’m not in good form. Normally, I’m all for cry and leave me alone, but daycare has her in a tizzy. Striking a balance of comfort without coddle, I wake the hubby (HOW DOES HE SLEEP THROUGH ALL THE NOISE ANYWAY?!!) to go into her room and quietly put her on the potty,then let her know it’s still dark and time to sleep. This doesn’t work – twice!

6:10am – The morning rush has come. Time for my quick bathroom run and edited morning beauty routine, using 3-out-of-6 products. With toddlers you need plan A, plan B and plan S*#T if you want to #AlwaysBeYourBestYou

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6:15am – Ms Ilana Rose has her beauty routine- brushing teeth. Wait, what’s that on your tongue? ____ insert preferred profanity

6:20am – Wake up daddy to show our booboo and enjoy a three-way-cuddle. Ilana is sad about her spot.

6:35am – Ms. Ilana Rose is ready for wardrobe and hair. PS Styling a toddler with curly hair requires patience and good tools. Thanks Wet Brush Mini.

6:55am – Baby Buddha, aka David (now 15-months-old) wakes up and assumes lotus position. He’s mumbling and then he spots us approaching, through the glass French doors of his room. Ilana plays while David does what he does best, laugh, while he’s being changed.

7:15am – EVERYONE is hungry. We head downstairs. Cue the back pain of holding one that is walking and one that you can’t yet trust to walk while the other is walking. Does that make sense? You know what I mean. If not, pardon my writing. It’s not even 8am and I’m exhausted!!!

7:25am-8am – Feeding David cream-of-buckwheat kasha, while Ilana drinks her milk and feeds herself mashed prunes. Then David chills in his chair with a car book, while I assist Ilana with her kasha.

8am – I scarf down leftover kasha and fruits. This is not an #AlwaysBeYourBestYou, healthy breakfast. I eat less than the kids. It’s one-of-those-mornings.

8:20am – Grandpa is going to work late and lives down the block. Sweet. Watch David, while I take Ilana to daycare!!

9am – Back home and ask grandpa for 5-more-minutes. Grab a LUNA bar (still HUNGRY), green tea with a spoon of matcha powder and my adorable Old Navy walking-the-kids-in-the-park bag. Oh, gotta check emails for a hot minute.

9:15am – I have the best Father-in-Law! David is outside in the stroller waiting for mommy. Off to the park. Secure doctor appointment for Ilana 11:30am, today. Hmm. Rggg. I don’t want to drag David. What if he gets sick. Babysitter comes through, last minute.

9:30am-11am – Swinging, playing, laughing, pushing his bubble machine and making me laugh my tooshy off. I’m so lucky to be David’s mom.

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11am – Babysitter takes David. I take to the wheel. Mad dash to get Ilana and pray to make it back to daycare by 12:15pm or she’ll miss lunch.

12pm – Wait, didn’t we have an 11:30am appointment. Ilana is so exhausted, she rests at the office. Good news: it’s just a canker sour. Put honey or rose preserve on the spot and we’ll be good.

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12:20am – Ilana falls asleep on the way home. Poor thing.

12:30pm – Hungry hippo, aka Ilana, eats mama’s meatballs, pasta and loads of steamed veggies. I’m SO HAPPY she’s eating more.

1:30pm – Ilana is in bed. The babysitter has left. David is in bed.

1:40am – Wait, I’m hungry too!!

2pm – 2:45pm Call hubby to tell him all is well in motherhood land. Field calls from grandparents and great-grandma. Ya, we’re THAT kind of family. #Blessed

2:45pm – 3:30pm Power nap with two phone call interruptions, but i’ll take it.

3:30pm – 4:30pm – Wow, loving the energy rush. Why not change bedding, unpack hubby’s luggage from business trip, and start this post?

4pm – Baby Buddha is awake and talking to himself. 25-minutes later he starts to talk to me “Mama, bee beep” He loves cars. “Mama, amm amm” He loves to eat.

4:30pm – “Mama ah ah pee pee.” A potty trained baby is good, except that they no longer chill in bed. They have needs! I’m coming my darling.

4:45pm – Ilana is dressed and we head to David. My mom pops in after work. Yes! I love help and good company of adults.

5:30pm – Everyone eats – even me.

6pm – Following some in-door play and counting games, it’s off to the park.

6:45pm – Walking back home, Ilana wants to push her brother’s stroller. I lower the handles and watch, realizing this was long, but blessed day. Don’t blink. It will pass. #MakingAMentalPicture AND taking a real one, for daddy.

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7pm – Last meal of the day, then it’s off to bed for David.

8:30pm Ilana is in bed, later than usual, but she got to see grandparents come over.

8:35pm – Too exhausted to eat anything dinner worthy. Tea and grilled cheese sandwich with sliced tomatoes always does the trick.

9pm – Physical Therapist arrives. Like I said, two toddlers is NO JOKE.

10:15pm – Delusional Me meets Reality Me. RM: “Hi, you’re not blogging tonight. You can’t even spell your own name.” DM: “Bi&ch.” But, she’s right. Off to bed, but first: check weather, plan tomorrow’s outfit and prep breakfast. Attempt a few pages of The Paris Wife.

 

If this sounds like a day in your life, grab a glass of Rosé, and park it here when the kids are napping, or when you just need a minute to yourself. I’m going to be making a better effort to post, now that one of the kiddos is in day care. But, you know, things rarely go according to plan in The Land of Motherhood!

As always ,wishing you a blessed day full of style and smiles. Oh, and don’t forget to #AlwaysBeYourBestYou !

Always Be Your Best You Pamela Pekerman Signature

Mom Musings: Truth about Draining Breastfeeding Madness, Don’t Judge Moms

Who just ate yummy milk?
The background was me moving in all my office essentials from the
city to the home office. This was another item on the to-do list. 
I confess … breastfeeding is the pits!
As I anxiously anticipate the arrival of my son, this summer, I shiver at the thought of sacrificing my sleep and sanity in order to feed him breast milk. I say “breast milk” because it’s been made VERY clear to me that I did not “breast feed” my daughter, last year.
Apparently, pumping, which provides the same exact nutritional value as does putting a baby to a breast, is not actual breastfeeding. Um, go F*^% yourself. My daughter received the same good stuff and I still had to work very, VERY hard to manage to survive the five months of +Medela madness.  
Sorry all you judgmental peeps, including the nurses at the hospital that nudged me to at least try to breastfeed because “skin to skin is so important for your connection to the baby”. My boobs belong to my husband! I’m in for making the milk, but the sucking part is coming from a glass bottle. We used Lifefactory, in case anyone is wondering.
But, I digress.
 
Breast feeding, round two. Yah or Nah?
 
Yes, breastfeeding / pumping is the pits. It was mentally and physically exhausting the first go around. I didn’t help the matter by jumping back into work (albeit from home, most of the time). I even did a store appearance ten days after giving birth. (PS It was the grand opening of NessaLee Baby in Livingston, NJ. The store and the owners are amazing.) Oh, and I refused to get a nanny because I was flush with energy, initially, despite being up every three hours to first pump and then feed Ilana Rose.
L to R: Trying to look normal with +NessaLee Baby owners Jordan and Vanessa;
with EXTRA Wardrobe Stylist Julie Kozak;
with +Project Nursery  co-founder +Melisa Fluhr 
Of course, in keeping with my Always Be Your Best You philosophy, I did not walk around the house looking like a hot mess. Before the 6am feeding, makeup was applied, along with my post-partum, body-preservation creams.
 
Ilana Rose was doing great. I was calm, so she was calm. We go into a great schedule and in about 5 weeks or so she began to have wider gaps of “feed me” moments, at night. I, however, was still up pumping out the goods.
 
My brain was spinning. My body was flipping out. I felt like I was on drugs, and I’ve never taken drugs so really this was just what I assumed it felt like to be drugged out. I remember telling my sister and husband that I felt like someone was pumping helium into my brain because I felt foggy. Nothing seemed clear. Then, one day, the sh&t; hit the fan.
I used to watch her sleep a lot. I should have listened to my mom
and mother-in-law and slept, as well! 
While feeding my daughter, I attempted to sing her some songs. But, who turned off the play list? I couldn’t remember the words to anything! It was like a part of my brain was gone. Over the next few days, I noticed that I couldn’t articulate my thoughts properly to anyone. And, then, the emotional madness hit. I couldn’t control the tears. It was ridiculous.
 
Turns out, I was seriously sleep deprived. I skipped a few pumps at night, but then felt guilty because if you don’t do it you lose it! I tried to go on more walks. I pulled back on work (although, not nearly as much as I should have!). Then, my family stepped in and we got a nanny. The nanny cared for the baby, while my mother cared for me. Ya, that’s how bad it got.
 
I eventually decided to pump through the summer, use stored milk after that and slowly transition into formula.
 
Yes, breastfeeding is the pits. I had NO IDEA WHAT I WAS GETTING MYSELF INTO! It’s impossible to breast feed, take care of a baby, manage your family and work the way I choose to work without proper help. Even then, the physical demands of being a milk factory are beyond comprehension to anyone who hasn’t done it.
 
So, here comes number two.
 
For those who are wondering, yes, I plan to breastfeed my son. Oh, sorry, pump J. This time, I’m older (this past year basically equals ten years!) and wiser. I’m taking off July and August. My only work will be to be mommy. If the spirit moves me, I will blog. That’s it! I plan to go for about four or five months, but I’ll take it week by week.
My little peanut.
There is no denying that giving a baby breast milk is the best option. But, it’s very personal. Given everything that I’ve shared, you can imagine that it’s not something I can recommend. In fact, all I will say is this:

Do what works for your body and your family. If skin-to-skin is your game, great. If you want to pump into a machine and feed from a bottle, bottoms up. If you want to cabbage up your boobs (I’ll talk about that in a future post) and just do formula, fabulous. We shouldn’t judge each other, because motherhood is a crazy job that we need to figure out and navigate as we see fit. And, of course, we need to do it with confidence, style and a little rough ;-).  You knew I would say that, right?