Friday 5 Finds by Pamela Pekerman

Love Is In The Air – Friday 5 Finds

Hey Mamas,

Love is in the air. When we open up our hearts, minds, and style choices, to the possibilities of joy, love flows into our life from all corners.

Pardon me if I sound like a Hallmark card, but a switch went off inside of me sometime in 2016, and I’ve been oozing with love and happiness ever since.

More on my mental shift in upcoming posts, because I so want YOU to know what it feels like to live every breath with gratitude, grace and love.

For now, because I gotta run and take Ilana to a doctor’s checkup – #momlife –, here are my Friday 5 Finds devoted to, what else, LOVE.

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Always be ready to receive some love, via the perfect kiss. Sol de Janeiro just came out with the Brazilian Kiss, a lip butter infused with cupuaçu (straight from the Amazon and loaded with moisturizing goodness), açaí and coconut oil, which leaves lips lusciously dewy and smooth. The Brazilian Beijo, aka Brazilian kiss, is said to be a full-body experience. Interested? Check out Tips for the Perfect Brazilian Kiss.


Small acts of kindness can make a huge impact, which is why I’m a firm believer in supporting brands that do good. Love is Project encourages you to think about what love means to you by wearing a hand-beaded LOVE bracelet created by artisans in Kenya. Every purchase creates a sustainable livelihood for hundreds of Maasai (an ethnic group living in Southern Kenya) women & their families. Visit their website to learn how the universal language of LOVE is being shares and celebrated.


I can’t tell you how many women – and men – complimented me on this oversized Deux Lux tote, this week. Clearly, we all just want some hearts and reminders of the power of love.


We all know about face masks, but a mask for your hands is equally as important. A winter beauty essential, the XpresSpa Hand Mask will improve smoothness and moisture content of your hands thanks to shea butter and jojoba oil. Plus, it has collagen (you know I love my collagen) which will firm-up the appearance of your hangs.


I’m obsessed with printed plates and colorful utensils. White Lilac’s I Love Unicorn Plates, make every day feel like a party. Mom bonus – it helps you feed two toddlers a LOT faster!



Beauty Giveaway: NuFace mini At-Home Microcurrent Device

So, it’s 8:45pm the kids are in bed, the hubby isn’t home, dinner isn’t done …

Time for my uninterrupted, evening beauty routine. The newest piece of my youthful puzzle is NuFACE mini, which I featured in my most recent PIX11 Morning News segment “Ahh-ha Products Created by Women for Women“.

I’ve been using this at-home microcurrent-emitting device for about four weeks, and it really does lift and tone the skin. I certainly feel refreshed after each 5-minute face workout. It’s been called Pilates for your face. I love that phrase, so I’m stealing it.



Any who, so I’m doing my thing, gliding the silver balls of the device on my face (ya, ya, insert perverted joke) while I head down to boil some potatoes for the mashed potatoes that will compliment the veal sausages I picked up at my local Italian butcher shop – hey Frank & Sal’s – when, it dawn’s on me:

Pam, why not share the skin-lifting love with your peeps?

Which brings me to 10:30pm, aka, now, when I’m writing this post to announce a GIVEAWAY of the NuFACE mini. See rules below.


1. Subscribe to this website. Simply click that adorable pink envelope to the right and add your email address. I promise you wont be spammed. Actually, you won’t get anything for a while. I still haven’t sign up for an email subscriber service. #ToDoLise but #StillHaveABabyAtHome)

2. Leave a comment below. Be nice. Say hi.

3. Follow me on Instagram. Oh, come on, my photos are life changing. Okay, but at least the one’s of my kids are pretty adorable.

3. That’s it. Sit around in your favorite lounge wear and wait for me to announce you as the winner.

Contest ends April 15, 2016 at 11:59pmEST. Must be at least 18-years-old to win. Contest is open to Continental US residence and Canada. Ya, I  love you guys up North. You’re so darn friendly! Retail value of giveaway is $199.nuface_giveaway_3

Good luck.




Friday Five Finds: Health and Beauty Benefits of Oatmeal for Mom, Kids & Home

Winter winds and warm oatmeal, there’s no better combo.

I have a bowl of oatmeal almost every morning, as do the munchkins. It’s been my digestive salvation post-pregnancy. Yes, the kiddos did a number on my insides! Fortunately, oatmeal is loaded with fiber which helps your digestive system run smoothly.

Beauty-wise oats are a tool for radiant skin, and have been used in skincare as far back as 2000 BC. Actually, oatmeal is one of the few natural ingredients to receive recognition from the Food and Drug Administration (FDA).

Health and Beauty Benefits of Oatmeal

  1. Feel Fuller Longer – Oatmeal is rich in soluble fiber, so  it stays in your stomach longer, making it less likely for you to have hunger cravings
  2. Heart Healthy – Oatmeal contains both calcium and potassium, which reduce blood pressure numbers and risk of coronary heart diseases. (FYI My friends at Burlington, along with Wendy Williams, are doing a really amazing Women Heart Campaign. #HealthyHeartSelfie Learn all about it here.
  3. Digestive Salvation – Oatmeal swoops into your digestive system and flushes things out, makes stool softer, thus move through you intestines faster, preventing constipation
  4. HydrationColloidal oatmeal, produced from finely ground oat grains, is full of vitamins, minerals and lipids that add moisture to skin
  5. Soothing Properties – Oatmeal contains both anti-inflammatory and antioxidant properties, ideal for sensitive skin and to treating skin disorders like sunburns, eczema and poison ivy (every mom should have a diy oatmeal cream, just in case)

Here are Five Finds for Mom, Kids and Home inspired by my love of oatmeal. Have a fabulous weekend.

PS I’ll be doing a Meaningful Me Moments getaway in Manhattan, this weekend. Follow along on Instagram, and learn about one of my favorite boutique hotels The Gregory.

Friday Five Finds Oatmeal for Mom Kids and Home

1. First Aid Beauty Ultra Repair Gentle Cleansing Bar $14 – This soap is great for my sensitive skin. It’s free of parabens, fragrance, harsh chemicals and colorants, and loaded with colloidal oatmeal, shea butter and squalene to moisturize, calm and clean my skin.

2. OatMeals 120 West 3rd St, New York,  10012646-360-3570– I just learn about this place from my pr friends at St Ives. It’s an oatmeal bar! I can’t even tell you how excited I am to check it out, this week. If you’ve been there, leave a comment below and let me you if it rocked your oats off.

3. Lekue Individual Oatmeal Maker $19.95 – You know I love my time savers! This adorable kitchen helper not only can be used to cook and serve oatmeal (one less thing to wash, thank you) it also creates perfect individual oatmeal servings and cuts the cooking time from 10-15 minutes to just around 3 minutes.

4. AMOREPACIFIC Intensive Vitalizing Eye Essence $95 – Part of the Korean skincare philosophy, essences contain effective active ingredients in a concentrated form that affect the skin on the cellular level thus giving maximum product penetration. This is eye product is applied after toning and pre-hydrating, but before serum to achieve optimal results. The metal tipped wand applicator cools skin temperature upon contact to de-puff and brighten the delicate eye area. The lift action is where the oat extract does its thing, visibly firings and lifting skin, as well as hydrating by creating a protective barrier surrounding the eye area most prone to sagging.

5. St Ives Nourished And Smooth Oatmeal Scrub + Mask $4.29- If you’re not a DIY gal, this oat-based scrub is the next best thing to help revitalize your skin. You can also use it ask a mask. Apply, leave on for abotu 5-minutes then getly rinse off with cold water. It’s a great drug-story find, at a pocket-perfect price.

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Love Your Lips: Lip Care Products for Sexy a Sexy Pucker Valentines Day & Every Day

Happy Valentine’s Day!

Before I head down to bake Banana Bread with heart shape sprinkles and kick off a raging – RAGING- Valentine’s Day party with the hubby and munchkins, I wanted to share my favorite lip care products, so we can all have sexy lips.

Remember to Love Your Lips and keep it sexy every single day of the week! Feel free to use Valentine’s day to reboot and resassify your love life. Yes, that’s a word! Don’t let Vday be the only day you lock lips, wear thongs, trim your bush, etc. etc. Always Be Your Best You every single day. You deserve it. Your lips deserve it. And, now, mine deserve to wrap around … banana bread. (What did you think I would type at 10am? The kids aren’t even napping! I have some limits.)

Happy Kissing!

Lip Care Products

Using my wedding album as the backdrop to this kissable lip care shoot.

1. Tata Harper Volumizing Lip and Cheek Tint in Very Charming $36 – I’m all about multi-tasking products. Use this tint to add color to lips and cheeks, while also filling in fine lines and added some plumpness. Best of all, it’s free of synthetics, toxins, fillers, and artificial colors and fragrance.


2. 100% Pure Fruit Pigmented Pomegranate Oil Anti Aging Lipstick in Melon $28 – I’ve finally made the switch to cleaner, greener lipstick because it’s the one cosmetics item I reapply over a dozen times, per day. And, it gets ingested into into my bloodstream every time I drink/eat. Eek. This moisture-packed stick not only has a fruity (non-laboratory smell) thanks to the fruit coloring, it’s also free of  synthetic chemicals, synthetic dyes, chemical preservatives and other toxins, including lead.melon-900x900

The Food and Drug Administration is way behind the EU and Canada in terms of protecting women from potentially harmful chemicals in cosmetics. As a tip – and this will most definitely be discussed in future posts, as I get more educated on the matter – try to buy a lipstick that is also sold in the EU, in the exact same formulation. To learn more check out

3. Beauty For Real Lip Revival $14 – Lip scrubs are the new beauty step to add to your routine. I do it once  a week, usually at night. Just layer on a pinch amount, and gently massage onto lips. I like to leave it on for a minute or two – during which time I’m usually applying under eye creme. Then, I like to wash, pat dry and apply a hydrating, clear lip balm overnight from Tata Harper, or spa-out all the way and apply Patchology FlashPatch Lip Gels.

For DIY lovers, here’s an easy Honey Lip Scrub Recipe I found on The Honest Company blog.MSM-Miami-Shoot-Magazine-Beauty-for-Real-Lip-Revival

4. First Aid Beauty Ultra Repair Intensive Lip Balm $20 – A few weeks ago, I was battling nasty chap lips and cold sores galore. Once the sores were  on the mend, I used this balm to repair my acky, breaky lips. It was remarkable. Since then, this FAB balm has become an in the bag essential. The secret weapon is Colloidal Oatmeal (not to be confused with the oatmeal I had for breakfast) which is knows to sooth and smooth skin all over the body.

FYI If you have a little one that suffers from eczema, run a bath and drop some Colloidal Oatmeal in it. The natural anti-itch property will relieve discomfort and sooth your munchkin’s skin.First-Aid-Beauty-Ultra-Repair-Intensive-Lip-Balm

5. Patchology FlashPatch Lip Gels $50 – These stay-put gels are so much fun to wear, provide a punch of hydration that you really feel deep inside your lips, and are awesome at night as part of your wind down OR in the morning to boost volume and get lips ready for a luscious day. Ya, I’m kinda obsessed. #NoImNotASpokesperson but #ShootIWishIWereLip_Gels__32184.1445629360.600.600

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Meaningful Me Moments: Breathe Salt Rooms, Salt Therapy




I love my life. I love my munchkins. I love my business. I adore (insert sappy music) my husband.

But, sometimes, I just need to be ALONE. I need put on my running shoes, and get to a place of silence. Do you ever get that feeling?

When I’m in the city, my go-to place for stillness is BREATHE Salt Rooms, specifically the one located in Oasis Day Spa on Park Avenue and 33rd Street. If you’re looking for your next Meaningful Me Moments destination look no further than these tranquil, salty spots.



I first visited this heavenly oasis, during the hectic holiday season.  Talk about needing an eject button!

What I initially thought would just be a quick 30-minute wind down from all the noise (translation: holiday shopping, planning, deadlines looming, driving kids to-and-fro doctors, trying to see everyone, trying to just spend time with the hubby, promoting Shop 4 Vasculitis, getting holiday cards sent out, focusing on making time for the gym, baking, holiday decorating, New Year’s Eve packing … was that all of it?) turned out to be a mini wellness retreat.

BREATHE Sale Rooms  have a ton of health benefits.

Salt is a natural and effective antibacterial, antiviral, antifungal, and anti-inflammatory mineral. Actually, Dry Salt Therapy, also known as halotherapy, has been used for centuries in Europe and Russian to improve health because it destroys the irritants that prevent optimal well-being. I actually use salt therapy to help improve my son’s breathing, especially when he’s having a wheezing, croup cough. Side bar: Mom’s worst nightmare happened Saturday at 1am, when we went to the hospital so David could be evaluated and properly medicated. But, that’s for another post.

Salt. Silence. Stillness.



After stepping into the BREATHE Sale Room, sans shoes, and taking a deep breathe, I was already feeling the cleanse within. It’s like a massive nasal spray, but way cooler because you’re on a lounge bed surrounded by luxurious Himalayan salt, in a cave-like setting.

The peach-shaded lighting sets the mood, while the minimal décor sooths your senses, allowing the salty air to administer its natural healing with each deep, cleansing breath.

That night, I found that I slept better, one of the many bonuses of salt therapy. Others include: detoxifying the respiratory system, healing skin conditions, promoting better breathing, alleviate symptoms of allergies, asthma, COPD, snoring, sleep apnea, sinusitis, bronchitis, colds, flus and so much more. With winter still in full swing, I would definitely recommend a few visits.

I love how the founders of BREATHE Sale Rooms call this place “a toothbrush for your lungs and skin”. It’s truly the ultimate cleanse for your respiratory system, as well as your mind.

Next Meaningful Me Moments, trying out the Salty Yoga and Meditation classes. Who wants to join me? Call one of their four locations in NYC or Westchester for schedules.Breathe Salt Rooms

And, if you find yourself in Brooklyn, my uncle’s yoga studio, Yoga Spot NY and the adjacent Center of Traditional and Oriental Medicine, you can enjoy a lovely salt room. His center has been using therapeutic Himalayan salt rooms for wellness practices since 2012, making them one of the first on the East Coast. #ProudNiece

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Real, Honest Mother's Day Gift Guide

Mothers Day Gift Guide: All We Want is Sleep Sanity & Sex

I’ve really thought about this … and I’ve already mentioned in many posts that I don’t have that much time to think! As a mom, all I really want is SLEEP, SANITY and SEX.

I want to sleep enough, so that I can stay sane, focused and organized during the day, and have enough energy to make it through the night, aka sex. That last part is very important. (Sidebar – if you’re regularly opting out because you’re too tired, you need to hire a babysitter/phone-a-friend/take more mini vacations/staycations with no kids in the house … you get the idea. I’m very passionate about lots of passion. But, we can talk about that another time.)

After taking all of the above into consideration, I’ve picked some of my absolute favorite items that will make sure the mom’s in your life actually get gifts that will make them happy, gifts that will allow them to Always Be Your Best You. This is my honest, from the heart, Mothers Day Gift Guide.

Mother’s Day Gift Guide for more Sleep, Sanity & Sex

mothers day gift guide for sleep, sanity and sex

1. Perpetual Shade Arianna Lace Eye Mask $69 – Since becoming a mom, all lights and sounds bother me. I need total darkness, if I’m to have quality sleep. These shades are luxury for my eyes. You really want quality material touching your delicate skin.

2. Tata Harper Aromatic Bedtime Treatment $60 – I’m addicted to this soothing aroma. It’s the last think I do before I hit the pillow. FYI It’s nursing mom approved – non-toxic, all natural.

3. Sabbath in the Suburbs: A Family’s Experiment with Holy Time by Rev. MaryAnn McKibben-Dana $16- Putting a book on this list is ridiculous. Most young moms don’t have time to read, unless that’s our planned Meaningful Me Moments. But, for those times when we carve out our me time, and we are in the mood to read, this is the book to pick up. I read this while making milk for baby David, last summer. Mom will laugh, maybe cry, and perhaps be inspired.

4. Erin Condron Weekly Schedule Pad $30 and Desk Pad $30 – Staying organized it top priority, if you’re to have any sanity in your life. As an organizational duntz – I’m trying – I’m addicted to everything from this colorful, well-designed brand. It’s no surprise that Erin is a busy mom, herself. She really gets what we need to manage our lives.

5. Lyve Home $299 – Moms love to take pictures. Moms love to be organized. Somebody at Lyve loves moms. Think of this handy device as a cowboy that wrangles all your photos into a file cabinet all your own. It’s a “cabinet” that you can access anywhere, at any time without having to keep thousands of photos and videos on your smart phone. This was a game changer in my home.

6. Keurig 2.0 K550 Brewing System in Marsala $200 – Does a good coffee/tea machine need explaining? #Sanity

7. LAYNEAU Collection Isabella Dressing Gown $2200 – The photo doesn’t do this blush chiffon robe any justice. This is the robe you wear in your bedroom that seductively, begs for a reveal. I like to wear it in front of strangers. See below for explanation.

8. Nevaeh Intimates Pleasure Romper $202 – The name alone won me over. Listen up guys, your gal wants sexy lingerie, but a teddy is so typical. A romper, now that’s fresh and sexy. Plus, ladies, it’s so much more comfortable to sleep in through the night. Why only put it on and lake it off? Imagine the extra special wake-up you might get if you’re greeting him in this, in the morning?

9. Arielle Haspel’s jeWELLry i love me ring $395 (for Rose Gold with White Pearl – my personal favorite) – Sanity isn’t just about staying organized with your time and things, it’s about staying focused with your thoughts. Sometimes, mom needs reminding that she needs to love herself. This ring, and it’s message, should be a mandatory mantra for all moms.


Trying on the LAYNEAU Collection Isabella Dressing Gown … at 3pm in the afternoon … in front of strangers.


Testing out some bedroom accessories before heading home to be a VERY normal mom! #WorkingMom

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Red Carpet Manicure Beauty Giveaway – Blossom Soiree DIY Nail Art Kit

Happy Friday. Happy May 1st. Happy it’s actually sunny!

Let’s celebrate with a Beauty Giveaway.

Two lucky readers will win Red Carpet Manicure’s Blossom Soiree DIY Nail Art Kit, as featuring in my 70s Accessories Spring 2015 Trends segment on ABC’s CT Style.

The Red Carpet Manicure Beauty Giveaway Kit includes: two LED Nail Gel polishes, an assortment of dried flowers, pearls, and crystals ($20). You’ll also receive the Red Carpet Manicure Professional LED light ($50 value) so you can give yourself a gel manicure at home.

As  busy  mom, I know what it’s like to be in a pitch for time. When I can’t make it to my manicurist, it’s comforting to have a go-to gel kit at home. Now there really is no excuse for chipped, unpolished nails.

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To win you just need to Subsrcibe to Pieces of Pam. Click on the fabulous, coral envelope to the right of your screen. That’s it! Only Contintntal US Residence are eligable. I’ll randomly pick two winners on Wednesday May 6, 2015 at 6pm EST. Good luck.

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70s Accessories Spring 2015 Trend on ABC CT Style with Lifestyle Expert Pamela Pekerman

If you live in Connecticut, I hope you had a chance to check on my groovy, 70s Accessories Spring 2015 Trends segment on ABC’s CT Style, which aired this morning at 9am.

I feel blessed that I was able to spend my Thursday morning with such lovely people, including the glowing, 8-month-pregnant, co-host Teresa Dufour . (Bonus blessing that my hubby opted to drive me to the studio, and work remotely from the car, while I did my think on set. Five hours in the car with my beloved )equals happy wife!)

Oh, but I digress. The accessories …

Here are some tips to keep in mind when shopping for 1970’s style and accessories:

  • Don’t over do it. A denim jumpsuit, paired with a fringe bag, floppy hat and chevron print sandals only works on Rachel Zoe.
  • Choose one or two accessories and mix them with your existing wardrobe.  For instance, layer a wooden belt over your favorite little white dress and finish off the look with gladiator sandals.
  • Always accessorize for your age. If you were of age to rock the 70s look in the 70s, you may be too mature (I refuse to use the word “old”!) to bust out in full floral blossoms. Lets leave that to the teenagers and early 20-somethings at Coachella.



70s accessoires spring 2015 shoes

1. CornettiConca Gladiator Knee High Sandal $395

2. Valentino Rockstud 1973 Striped Leather Gladiator Sandals $1095

3. Saint Laurent Fringe-Trimmed Suede High-Top Espadrilles

4. Elyse Walker Alex Suede Fringe Sandals $495

5. PRADA Wooden-Heeled Leather Sandals $720



70s accessories spring 2015 handbags

1. Ramy Brook Camile Fringe Messenger $425

3. Proenza Schouler Multicolor Python Large Bucket Bag $2450

4. H&M Shoulder Bag with Fringe $30

2. J.Jill Straw Tote



70s accessories spring 2015 jewelry

1. Blue Box Jewels Sterling Silver Turquoise Triple Triangle Necklace $80

2. De Buman 18k Goldplated Oval Turquoise Ring $39

3. Passiana Gunmetal Fringe Necklace $50

4. Moira Anne Artisan Tree of Life Bracelet $28

5. De Buman 18k Goldplated Fancy Created Turquoise Ring $65

6. Belcho Textured Triangle with Circle Dangle Earrings $45

7. Pretty Little Style Goldtone Aztec Print Dangle Earrings $16

8. Journee Collection Vintage Multi-colored Acrylic Stretch Bracelet $12

9. H&M Fringe Cuff with Faux Raw Stone (not show in photo. Available in stores.)



70s accessories spring 2015 hats

1. AEO Wide Brim Fedora Hat $39

2. H&M LOVES COACHELLA Hair decoration with flowers $15

3. H&M Flower Hair Clip $7

4. Interlocking Disc Belt and Wooden Buckle $17

5. Natural Coco Beaded Stretchy Belt $15

6. AEO Tinted Aviator Sunglasses $15

7. Brown/Multi Silky Chevron Infinity Scarf $16



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Red Carpet Manicure Blossom Soiree DIY Nail Art Kit $19  … GIVEAWAY ALERT. Click here for the chance to win this fun nail art kit and decorate your nails in the 70s spirit of flower power!!

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Accessorize Your LBD for Any Holiday Party w/ Style Expert Pamela Pekerman, ABC Houston

Every woman should own the perfect LBD, one that transitions from work to weekend with key accessories. Here’s what I shared on the topic with ABC Houston’s Patricia Lopez. A detailed shoppers guide follows.

PS Happy Holidays to you and your family! Enjoy the festivities with love, laughter, and style.

The Little Black Dress look for versatility. The dress should not be too short, too tight or embellished with sparkles, in order to be an ideal fit for work. However, is should have some flair and fun details, so that it shines on the weekend. This Muse dress hits all the marks with the playful peter pan neckline, ruffled bottom and a semi formfitting silhouette. ($156 Muse)

LOOK 1 – Date Night  The inspiration was Audrey Hepburn with an rocken twist via the skull clutch.

      Black, leather opera gloves ($49 H&M;)
      Layer on pearl necklaces ($8-$20 Charming CHARLIE)
      Slim Crystal Tiara ($14 Charming CHARLIE)
      Finish off with finger-skull clutch ($19 Charming CHARLIE)
      Black pumps (model’s own)

LOOK 2 – Office  Make that same dress work appropriate by covering up with layers. 

      Cobalt blue cardigan ($39 Charming CHARLIE)
      Belt ($15 Charming CHARLIE)
      Black tote (Charming CHARLIE)
      Scarf ($15 Charming CHARLIE)

LOOK 3 – Club Scene In this setting, it’s all about shine overload, so go wild with mixed metals and textures.

      Clutch (Charming CHARLIE)
      Sparkling bangles ($14.79/each Charming CHARLIE)
      Metallic pantyhose ($63 Emilio Cavallini from
      Peep-toe booties (Charming CHARLIE)

LOOK 4 – In-Office Party Forget about ugly holiday sweater and get your festive flair on with broaches or interesting pantyhose. But, don’t go overindulge unless you know it’s appropriate in your work environment.

      Oxblood pantyhose ($18.75 Mary Portas & Chanos from
      Red cluster earrings ($7.97 Charming CHARLIE)
      Mix/match broaches in a cluster ($ Charming CHARLIE)
      Oxford shirt ($138 Elizabeth Daniel NY)
      Black pumps (model’s own)

Pregnancy Tales: MILF in Training vs Pregnant Slob, Make a Choice

I’m a MILF in Training and proud of it – confident, coiffed, styled and sexy all the way through my belly bump. Pardon my rant, but here goes. I’m sick of seeing so many pregnant (and while I’m already going there, non-pregnant) women looking like a hot mess. Would it kill you to tame your mane, wear something other than sweatpants while running errands, showcase your best asset (trust me, you have one, if not more!!), and for G-d’s sake put on a little rouge? Surely, you can, and you must, find time to get yourself together in the morning!   

I know what you’re thinking, “this bitch is crazy, she has no idea what my life is like, and she has no idea how hard it is to juggle kids/work/family responsibilities/guilt…” Maybe you’re even thinking, “Why bother? My husband isn’t attracted to my pregnant body anyway. What’s the point?” Or “Well, if I had a celebrity budget that allotted for a personal trainer, a nanny and other perks, maybe I could find time to look amazing like Jessica Alba or Gisele Bundchen, but I live in the real world.”

Allow me to confess, I didn’t grow up with a lot of money. However, I grew up with a mom who always – ALWAYS – looked put-together and taught her daughters the importance of looking good and living a beautiful life on any budget. She was a 360degree role model for how a woman should present herself because she knew it was her job to look good – for herself, for my father and for her children. Finances are not an excuse. If you can’t afford a personal trainer or even a DVD, there are plenty of tips online of what you can do at home with commonly-found items like a chair or nothing at all. As for clothing, ladies, I live in T.J. Maxx and Marshalls, occasionally visit H&M; and ZARA, and indulge (when it’s a worthy investment) at Bloomingdale’s and Saks. There are NO EXCUSES for looking like a slob and not caring. It all comes down to will power and your desire to NEVER SURRENDER your sexuality, sanity and self-esteem.  

The point and the reason for my rant, this blog and every segment I do on TV is that it, your appearance, DOES matter. Personal grooming and style are tools you and I should use on a daily basis to look amazing in order to feel amazing about ourselves. And, when we are pregnant and dealing with crazy pimples, peeing while sneezing (what the F!*K), sciatic nerve-induced limping and sleep deprivation, we can use every ounce of amazing goodness we can grab onto! Moreover, when we feel amazing we are naturally going to be better wives, better role models for our children, and more productive/happier workers. You know damn well that when you have your shit together, you have a whole different outlook on life and the challenges of the day ahead.

I truly care about you which is why I want you to WAKE UP, get angry with me and then realize your midnight craving for cheesecake or lack of desire to combat stretch marks, isn’t doing you any good.

As I sit here typing at 2:30am because my baby girl is kicking so hard I can’t sleep, I see two choices before us pregnant gals:  MILF in Training or Pregnant Slob. It’s harsh, but that’s the reality of the situation and there is no middle ground.

As always, I welcome your comments.  Something tells me you’ll have a lot to say.