My New Year’s Resolution, err Reso-Provement for Being My Best Self

Hey Mamas,

Happy New Year!

I hope you had plenty of family fun, cozy moments, boozy brunches, and, of course, meaningful me moments.

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How can I improve myself – be kinder (to others, as well as myself)? be more active in my charity The Vasculitis Foundation, as well as others? be more useful?

How can I be my best self?

One way to accomplish many of my reso-provements is to be here, with you, blogging and chatting.

I absolutely love the community we are building on this blog, as well as on Instagram and Facebook. So, I resolve to improve my performance, and be more useful to all of you.

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Expect my Friday Five Finds to appear weekly, as well as one or two other posts during the week.

As always, I welcome your comments, questions, and ideas. How can I be of service to you? What time-saving products are you seeking? What’s your mama drama? Share away.newyearsresolution_2017_5

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Always Be Your Best You Pamela Pekerman

 

 

World Kindness Day: NEON by Paul Mitchell Supports Anti-Bullying & Positivity

Hey Mamas,

It’s Sunday night, and I hope you had a kind, cozy day, because today is World Kindness Day. And, with the angry, bitter presidential election behind us, I wanted to spotlight a brand that’s actually putting more positivity and kindness into the world.

Recently, I attended the launch of NEON a new teen-focused hair care line from Paul Mitchell. The event was a feel-good gathering of women in media, surrounded by inspirational quotes and neon bright lights — and yellow rock candy!

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Aside from being powered by sugar ingredients that allow for sweet, endless styling possibilities (Ya, I’ve tested the goods and rediscovered my teen spirit) NEON is also all about #StandOutStyle.

It’s about you being you, not following the herd. Or, as I always preach, Always Be YOUR Best YOU.

NEON aims to empower teens, at a time when social media is bringing the bully home. As a mom, I worry about cyberbullying, not to mention the overall negative tone our media and political leaders are projecting to our youth.

That’s why I want all you moms to support companies like Paul Mitchell, that are leading the charge against bullying and putting more kindness into the world.
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Let’s empower our girls to be unique, love themselves, spotlight positivity, squash negativity, create positive changes within their schools and communities, and be leaders we can admire.

Via NeonHair.com as well as the NEON instagram feed, you’ll find a space for anti-bullying advocates and organizations to share their message in order to drive awareness and create a conversation to inspire teens.

There, you can get to know Britain Bennett, an amazing 17 year old who blew me away at the  NEON press event, two weeks ago. She’s turned her own bullying hardships (including not wanting to get it of bed, and even wishing she were dead!!) into a movement dubbed TBH to show all girls we are united against negativity.

The TBH platform, stands for

T – “talk to someone”

B – “block harmful words from your head and your heart”

H – “help others”

Here’s to girls like Britain Bennett, brands like NEON by Paul Mitchell, and anyone else that’s putting a little kindness into the world.

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With the kind and sweet Brittney Levine, host of Marie Claire’s The Fix.

As my mom always says, “Kindness counts.”

Happy World Kindness Day! And, have a kind and happy week!

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Spa Week $50 Treatments are Back, Moms Rejoice & Rejuvenate

Hey Mamas.

It’s Sunday. And …

It’s the most wonderful time of the year. Spa Week!!!!!

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You didn’t actually think I would say holiday shopping? It’s WAY too soon to think about that, so stop stressing me out.

In fact, stop stressing yourself out, and indulge in Spa Week $50 treatments during the week of October 17 – 23, 2016.

It’s still not too late to save money on a luxurious facial (try a diamond facial, it will glow you up and remind your skin what it’s like to look like you actually get enough sleep), or a foot massage (because mama’s feet scream at the end of the day.)

Whenever I’m near my hubby’s office in midtown, I try to get a foot therapy massage at Sheva Spa NY. Outside the spa doors, it’s the business buzz of one of Manhattan’s most frantic, dollar-driven neighborhoods, inside it’s a zen-zone of purple and orange flowers, gilded deities and all-you-can-drink Thai tea.

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I never cared about foot massages until I became a mom. Mom is the most on-your-feet job I’ve ever had, more demanding and damaging (physically …. and mentally) than anything I could have imagined.

So, I indulge. I indulge whenever, wherever.

I create Meaningful Me Moments at home (hello kid-free bedroom with candles), in the bathroom (because locking the door and putting on Brazilian bum bum cream while munchkins are screaming outside counts!!) in the car (yes, I’ve been know to stay in the car longer than needed while my mom or nanny are with the kids, so I can listen to music, or just listen to my brain go numb … like you haven’t don’t that?) and, at the spa (by far, the best option).

Like I always say, I’m no good to anyone else, if I’m not at my best. And, I’m not at my best, if I’m not taking some time outs.

My good friend, Latham Thomas, whom I recently profiles in my momBOSS series (more inspirational moms coming soon, promise) says, “You need to mother yourself first.”

So, if you’re looking for your next mommy-time-out that’s actually away from the house, check out SpaWeek.com. And, while you’re there, check out my latest articles for SpaWeek’s blog, where I discuss why it’s so important to make time for yourself.

There are tons of high-end spas and medi-spas participating in Spa Week October 2016, all across the country. So, moms everywhere can rejoice and book up.

Share your #MeaningfulMeMoments spa experience with me @PamelaPekerman on Instagram, and let me know how taking time out makes you feel better about yourself, makes you more productive and even makes you a better mom.

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momBOSS Interview with Nicole Feliciano MomTrends.com Founder and Author

I’ve known Nicole Feliciano, the founder of MomTrends.com, for over five-years. I can’t recall how we met, but I can recall the countless amount of times she has shown up for me – at events I was hosting (even when she only had 15-minutes to spare), social media contests that I needed help promoting, even personal advice when I felt lost in motherhood land. She’s a girl’s girl, a sharer, a dreamer, a media mogul, and a natural voice for the next generation of moms itching to find their inner momBOSS.

Last week, Nicole’s first book Mom Boss: Balancing Entrepreneurship, Kids and Success hit shelves. Before kicking off her book tour, she sat down with me to share some wisdom about her journey from the corporate world, to mommy land and her happy formula for mom boss success.

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So many moms have dreams they never pursue. What gave you the courage to leave your corporate job, start MomTrends and become a killer momBOSS?

I’m so inspired by the women, like my mom, who worked so hard to give my generation of women OPTIONS. I was raised believing I could do anything I wanted. Now, I want to blaze one too–where women get to work on their own terms. I wanted to create a life full of family and opportunity, and I knew no one would hand me the life I wanted.

What was your original vision for MomTrends and how has it evolved?

MomTrends was always meant to be a resource for moms to find lifestyle tips and a emotional boost, in an otherwise busy day. All our content is meant to be pretty, purposeful, inspiring and social.

What does a typical morning look like for you?

I get up at 6:45am. My girls, now 11 & 8, usually come in for snuggles in the morning. Mr. Momtrends whips up breakfast, and we take turns walking them to school. I try to work out in the morning before I head to my We Work office in DUMBO.

Once at my desk I try to do something creative to kick start my day–either styling a fashion shoot or writing. Then, it’s time to dig into calls and strategy sessions with my team. In the afternoon, I try to attend networking events. Most nights we eat dinner as a family. I cook 5-6 nights a week. Unplugged time is sacred. I try to log off from 6-9pm when the family is together. I have special reading time with each girl. My tween and I are really into adventure books; right now we are knee-deep in Masterminds. I read with the little one second because she’s the night owl. Right now we are reading Melody, the newest book from American Girl.

I pop back online after spending time with the hubby. Usually writing and taming the beast of email until well after midnight. Did I mention I crave more sleep?

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Quite the schedule! What’s your biggest tip for juggling personal, professional and family needs?

Keep a calendar. When I look at my calendar I can tell if I am overcommitted. I need to see a month, week and day mapped out and where I need to cut back. Sometimes the kids’ calendars look too complicated and I trim those down, sometimes I have too many meetings for work. I am constantly trying to juggle the calendar.momboss_nicolefeliciano_5

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What other tools/services do you recommend for aspiring mom entrepreneurs?

Get a good accountant–one that will really hold you accountable for profitability.

In your book, I love that you say “Comparison is the thief of joy.” How do you avoid looking over your shoulder and comparing yourself to other moms, as it’s such a cultural epidemic?

When you have a pride in authorship, you know you are on the right path. When I truly enjoy what I am creating I tend to look forward to what’s next, not side to side to see who is doing the same thing. Stay interesting. Never stop learning and don’t be boring.

What advice would you give to a mom who’s been out of the game for 5, maybe 10 years and now would like to become a momBOSS not only in her home, but outside the home, as well?

Start small. Find a part-time gig and test out your skill set. Experiment trying on a few things–maybe at home sales, or setting up a small Etsy shop. Analyze how you feel with each step and what worked so you can make informed decisions about your future.

Many moms turn to social media and the web as a means to create a business, while still being more available to their family. Is there still space in the online world for new voices?

Absolutely! Find a niche that inspired you. New faces need to come in with a fresh voice. Ask yourself what makes you passionate? You need to be able to have a sustained enthusiasm for your topic. And figure out early on, is this a hobby or a business. If it’s a hobby, don’t get frustrated that you aren’t making money. If it’s a business, figure out early on how you are going to become profitable.

What tips would you give to an aspiring mommy blogger, vlogger or Instagramer?

Have a consistent look and voice. Don’t try to be everything to everyone. To create a true community you need to be niche. I suggest making a mission statement for your personal brand. What are you about? What topics WON’T you cover. Make a vision board and stick to it. Don’t chase trends, make trends.

What’s next for MomTrends Media?

The Mom Boss big book tour! Coming to a city near you!Mom Boss Nicole Feliciano book cover

Balance is a loaded, unrealistic goal, I prefer “Happy Formula”. In your book you also state “You have to embrace that you can only do a few things really well at one particular time.” What’s your Happy Formula for managing all corners of your momBOSS world?

I focus on family first, then work. If I feel like I am giving these two things my best I am winning. I say no to so many things. Saying no allows me to make more space to live in the moment. My girls are the delicious ages of 11 & 8 right now. I don’t want to miss a moment. Sleep gets sacrificed and pursuit of outside interests.

How do you find time for YOU #MeaningfulMeMoments in your busy life?

I run! I have two women who I regularly run with. I love multi-tasking. I catch up with my girlfriends AND get exercise. It’s a win/win! If you aren’t on social media or don’t run, it’s tough for me to maintain a friendship.

Quick, you only have 2 minutes to prep and pamper your face. What are your top makeup/skin products?

I love the Kiehl’s tumeric mask for a pick me up. I always keep a mask in my fridge to de-puff my eyes in a flash.

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Currently reading I Let You Go by Clare Mackintosh.

Currently drinking raspberry iced tea, unsweetened.

I hope my daughters think mom is inspiring.

Motherhood is my passion.

The best advice my mom ever gave me was never make a big decision when you are exhausted. Everything usually looks more clear in the morning.

 

8 Ways to Pamper Yourself at Home, on Great Day Washington

Ya, so it’s National Relaxation Day …

I should stress (pun intended)  that I’m working from home, with two sick kids and a segment taping coming up tomorrow morning! Oh, and the magical 4-day, family-and-friends weekend the hubby and I planned never happened … because someone, then two someones had near 103 fevers. Yup, that’s #momlife #circuslife.

But, today is National Relaxation Day and I am going to take a nap, just as soon as this post goes live. Praying it’s 3:30pm.

Cue zen music.

Cue silk mask over eyes.

Cue ear plugs and sound-reducing headphones.

Cue grandma coming in to save the day.

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(UPDATE: this post went live at 5:45pm because my daughter refused to get out of bed with my mom. Then, my mom decided to tell me about it, at which point my daughter realized I was home … #MadatMyMom … #FeelingGuiltyAboutThatEmotion. Nap time might happen 6-7pm)

On my last trip to DC, I taped a fun pampering segment, which ran today. I hope it inspires you mamas to take some time for yourselves. I know how hard it is to put yourself on the to-do list, but it’s extremely important for your well being.

Call mom. Call the next door teenager. Take a nap. Lock the door and do a little yoga or a self mani appointment. But, first, watch my Great Day Washington segment on wUSA9. XO.

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Magical Makeup Makeover

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Treat yourself to an at-home makeover with MakeupPlus, a virtual makeup counter that allows you to experiment and create classic to bold makeup looks in seconds.  It’s an easy-to-use and free app, that let’s you create and share the perfect selfie.  It’s an instant way to step up your beauty game and test drive looks before heading over to your fav beauty shop to make a purchase.

Treat Your Lashes Lushly 

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Pamper your lashes and take them to beautiful lengths with a simple brushstroke of RapidLash Eyelash & Eyebrow Enhancing Serum ($49.95) . Featuring a  proprietary mix of six highly effective ingredients, including Biotin, Amino Acids and Pumpkin Seed Extra, you start to see full, fluttery lashes in as little as 30 days. Two of my closest girlfriends swear by it!

At-Home Facial

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When you can’t make it to your facialist, WUNDER2 WUNDERTOX Cleaning Detox Mask  ($22) delivers a shot of oxygen and moisture to your skin to energize your complexion when it’s looking and feeling lackluster.  This innovative formula contains oxygen molecules to help deliver additional oxygen to your skin’s surface, giving skin a more youthful and refreshed look.  Best of all, it’s takes just 2-minutes. Ya, you know I love those time savers.

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I raved about my love of NuFace before. Yup, I’m still excited about the NuFACE mini Facial Toning Device ($199).  Anti-aging power in a palm of your hands.  The device stimulates the underlying structure of the skin to tone creating a lifted, more youthful appearance. Do it while watching the evening news or your go-to reality show. Some nights, both are like a reality show, especially with the current election cycle.

DIY Salon Services 

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Body waxing can be time consuming! And those of us with dark hair have to go at least every three weeks … sometimes I need one after two weeks!  SweetEase Waxing Kits ($3.99-$4.99) makes it easy and super affordable to get hair-free trunks in minutes in the privacy of your home. And, it’s mess-free strips wont turn your bathroom floor into a sticky, syrup bowl.

Silly girl. Don’t leave the house the chipped nails. When you skip your nail appointment, stay in and give yourself professional worthy nails with PIXEL High Shine Nail enamel ($3.25) .  With 44 versatile shades, I like to stack up a few classics and one or two season-specific shares.

Pampering Mind & Body

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Zarbees Immune Support + Multivitamin ($8.99) drink mix is packed with Vitamin D, Selenium and Honey, with a yummy mixed berry mix. It’s like having a personal nutritionist. You’ll be pumped up for the day ahead. It gets two green thumbs up for being free of artificial flavors,  artificial sweeteners, dyes and drugs.

Pamper Yourself at Home Yogaforce

When I first saw the Yoga Force A-line Mat ($89), I couldn’t believe it hadn’t been created sooner. This Ergonomically shaped mat has orange alignment guides that ensure proper positioning to help both beginner and advanced yogis reach perfect posture in every pose. It’s like having your own instructor, at home!

momBOSS Quotes: Gold Medalist & Olympic Mother Kerri Walsh Jennings

In the spirit of Rio 2016 Olympics, I couldn’t help but get inspired by the personal story of Volleyball champ (to put it mildly) and momBOSS mother Kerri Walsh Jennings.

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Sometimes my passion is just to make it through the mornings. #momlife

In a recent NBC profile, I saw how Walsh Jennings’  manic mornings “mamagering” three children ages 7, 6 and 3, is no different than any of our mornings.

Sure, she has three consecutive gold medals in beach volleyball from 2004, 2008, and 2012 Summer Olympics. 

Sure she’s poised to win another gold medal tonight, in Rio, with new partner April Ross. Tune in TONIGHT 8pm! (Okay, record it because chances are the kids aren’t sleeping, yet. Rggg daylight saving time. I long for it to get dark at 6pm so we can be back at our 7:30/8pm sleep time.)

And, sure Walsh Jennings has graced the covers of countless magazines.

But, were I to have the privilege to speak to her, I’m sure she would say that the hardest and most fulfilling job is these mornings with daughter Margery, and sons Joseph and Sundance. 

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Kerri Walsh Jennings at TheMoms event, dishing on motherhood.

Since I can’t phone into Rio to get a direct quote, here are some inspirational nuggets Walsh Jennings has said over the years. They don’t all directly pertain to her role as a mom, but I feel many of them can help us better ourselves personally and professionally.

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Translation: Stop judging other moms. Be the best mom YOU can be.

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Tomorrow, I might actually be a better version of myself, but I’m in no way interested in being any version of someone else. #authentic #selflove

I hope some of these Olympic inspiration quotes from Kerri Walsh Jennings help you refocus and be better morning mamagers, when it’s time to … 

negotiate with toddlers, get everyone dressed, no shoes are not an option, feed yourself while you stand, comb hair (yourself included), put on their SPF, make sure everyone’s bag is packed with snacks because g-d forbid they go to day care where everything is 100% organic and yummy with a snack from mom … okay that was my morning! I’m documenting it on Instagram’s new Stories feature

momBOSS Interview: Latham Thomas founder of Mama Glow

Pamela Pekerman:How would you describe yourself and what you do?
Latham Thomas:I’m a single mother with an 11-year-old son. I’m the founder of Mama Glow. I’m a maternity lifestyle maven, whose focus is to support women before, during and after pregnancy. I’m known as the celebrity doula, serving women everywhere as they journey into motherhood.

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Pamela: MamaGlow – the website, the book, the brand – is so much to so many.
Latham: How would you describe the mission of MamaGlow?
Mama Glow is a holistic maternity lifestyle hub that offers nutrition, yoga, and birth doula services to women during pregnancy and beyond. We are all about celebrating this special time in a woman’s life and helping her look and feel radiant for those precious 9 month and beyond.

Pamela: At what point did you realize, “Wow, I’m onto something big!”?
Latham:When I was pregnant with my son I was looking for resources and realized they didn’t exist, so the entrepreneurial spirit within me led me to found Mama Glow. I realized when I started getting cold calls from celebrities and when Vogue asked me to partner on an event early on, that this birth business I was cultivating could be a big deal. I still consider it something that’s growing on people. Not everyone is ready to talk about birth.Latham_Thomas_momBOSS

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Pamela: Who is the Mama Glow woman? How are you helping her Always Be Your Best You?
Latham: The Mama Glow client is a woman who is hip, savvy, trendy, fashionable and very conscious. She believes in the value of organics and limiting toxic exposures. She is educated and an active participant in her own well-being- she is also very driven and really benefits from the mindfulness area of our practice.

Pamela: What tips or daily rituals do you recommend for the mom who’s trying to find her passion and live her true path?
Latham: Writing down our goals and desires has a peculiar way of activating them in the world. It also gives the universe a clear indication that you are ready to take your thoughts, dreams and desires to the next level and spin them into action.  Start a Daily Gratitude & Desire journal practice. When you wake up each morning write down two columns: 1. What you are grateful for and be really specific here, and 2. what you desire- details are a must. When we call upon the universe to help send something into our orbit, we must be crystal clear on what we are asking for and be ready to receive.

Pamela: Do you have any tips for juggling personal, professional and family needs/obligations?
Latham: It’s a juggle. It’s not about balance, but about dynamic equilibrium and keeping the balls in the air and catching them when they come down. I believe in a strong self-care and self-reflective practice, whether that’s meditation, yoga, dance. Glow time is my self-care movement and it’s all about relaxation, whether you have 2 minutes or 2 hours.

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Pamela: Yes, I’m all about Meaningful Me Moments.
Latham: Exactly. When you indulge yourself, you honor yourself. You’ll be a better mother and better business woman for it.

Pamela: Speaking of business, is there something you do with him after a long day at work/being away?
Latham:We share highlights from our days when we get home. We have a tickle-time ritual where I tickle him and make him laugh after a long day away. I make sure to do an activity he loves with him like puzzles, Monopoly, or a game of pool.

Pamela: Quick, you only have 2 minutes to prep and pamper your face. What are you top makeup/skin products?
Latham: Tata Harper skin care- Regenerating Face cleanser. Uma oils – wellness face oil to seal in moisture. Obsessive compulsive lip tar– it’s vegan, and I smudge some on the cheeks too. Boom! Done.

Pamela: What’s the coolest product for new moms, which you’ve recently uncovered?
Latham:Right now I am obsessed with Munchery Meal delivery service- It’s amazing. Moms get meals prepared fresh by chefs. It takes the guess work out of cooking and it’s a great price. You can order online.

Pamela: What’s next for you and Mama Glow?
Latham: Mama Glow is expanding into new territory. I’m launching a new platform based on rituals which I am excited about unveiling this summer. It’s all a blessing.

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Currently reading The Sleep Revolution by Arianna Huffington

Currently drinking Green Juice – always

I hope my son thinks mom is a woman who created a life of purpose and inspired him to be his very best!

Motherhood is MY BIRTHRIGHT.

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momBOSS Interview: Cozy Friedman founder SoCozy Salon Formulas for Kids & Cozy’s Cuts for Kids Salon

Youth has its perks – you have an idea, jump right in and lead with your ambition. That’s what I did after graduating college and launching my first business BagTrends, with a gorilla marketing campaign during New York Fashion Week. And that’s exactly what Cozy Friedman did 20-years ago when she decided their was a need for kid-friendly hair salons, and she would be the one to fill the void with the launch of Cozy’s Cuts for Kids.

But time and age have their own perks, as well. Great listening skills and team building on all fronts – personal and professional – has allowed Cozy to braid together a successful and family-full life, and continue to expand her SoCozy line of salon formula hair care products for kids. I’m so proud to share my new friend Cozy Friedman’s entrepreneurial tips and momBOSS journey.

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Cozy Friedman posing with her expanding SoCozy collection of salon formulated hair care products for kids.

Pamela Pekerman: Risks can be scary. What gave you the courage to go into a field in which you had no experience or education?
Cozy Friedman: This may sound naive, but I was young and didn’t see opening a kids salon as a risk, just an exciting opportunity. I was raised by courageous business go-getters and that focus and drive was instilled in both my brother and I. It just never occurred to me that the concept wouldn’t work out. And for that mindset, I’m thankful.

Pamela: Many moms have dreams, but don’t know how to take the first steps. What tips would you have for a mom who wants to launch a business?
Cozy: Take one step at a time and educate yourself so that you’re confident and prepared. Knowledge is power, and you should never go into a new venture blindly. In my case, I enrolled in barber school, worked at many different children’s businesses, and absorbed as much experience and information as I could, before launching my first salon on Madison Ave. Education is still at the pulse of my brand. It’s important to me that SoCozy is always offering the latest advice, solutions, tips, and trends.

Pamela: With Cozy’s Cuts for Kids, at what point did you realize, “Wow, I’m onto something big!”?
Cozy: When I was looking for a location for my first salon, I couldn’t find a landlord that was willing to rent me the space. They considered my business a risk because they didn’t understand the concept. However, I finally found the perfect location to launch my salon and within a few months, a landlord that had previously turned me down promptly called to offer me my next salon location. The tables had turned, and that’s when I felt I was onto something big.

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Cozy Friedman of SoCozy on TODAY Show with Kathie Lee and Hoda.

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Cozy Friedman with Ivanka Trump, at Cozy’s Cuts for Kids Salon.

Pamela: It’s been twenty years and two kids since the launch of Cozy’s Cuts for Kids and the start of what has become a hair empire. What was it like growing your baby while raising two boys?
Cozy: There’s no doubt that it can be tricky to grow a business and raise a family together, but “together” was always essential for me. I never saw my family and my business as two separate compartments. They were always very intertwined. My sons grew up at my salon. As kids, they would play there while I worked and as teens they experienced their first part time jobs there and often work at our corporate SoCozy office. It was always a family effort, with the support of my husband, friends and family. I’m very fortunate to be surrounded by such a great “team”, and as a mom of two boys, it’s all about balance. I’m either leaving a soccer game to go to work or leaving work to go to a soccer game.

Pamela: In an average day what would you pack into the 7am-9pm grind?
Cozy: I wake up at 5am and meditate for 20 minutes. I’ll then run, spin or do yoga, which gets me ready to conquer the day. Next is breakfast with my boys and I take them to school at 7:30am. I’m then off to work. While commuting into the city, I work on our SoCozy social media, which is such a big part of our business. I love connecting with our consumers. Once I’m in the office, my days always vary. I consult with my team on various initiatives and then may head out for a speaking engagement, retailer meeting and/or event and of course visit my salons. I always enjoy wrapping up my day with family dinners and time to connect.

Pamela: What tools/services/people help you manage your momBOSS life?
Cozy: I fully believe it’s all about being part of a strong team. I wouldn’t be able to manage it all without my salon team, corporate office team and of course my family “team.”
What was the most difficult part of creating your hair care line, SoCozy? How did you deal with obstacles in productions, packaging, wholesaling etc.?
I faced the biggest obstacle when I needed to create custom formulations in small batches. I had to find manufacturers, and this was before the Internet days! That meant heading to tradeshows and networking the old fashioned way. I then had to convince the right manufacturer to take a risk and invest on creating these custom formulations. I’m proud to say that 14+ years later, we’re still working together.

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Cozy Friedman with her teenage sons and husband.

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Cozy Friedman and her family team.

Pamela: What differentiates SoCozy products from other hair care lines for kids?
Cozy: We specially developed salon-quality formulas that boast multi-functional use, so parents have a “go-to” that gets the job done quickly with great results every time. It was created for all kids and all hair types! We pride ourselves on SoCozy being safe with “no nasties” (i.e. parabens, phthalates, etc.)- just good, clean and completely non-toxic formulations that perform at the highest level. SoCozy also has incredible fragrances that kids and parents equally love- from notes of Peppy Pink Guava to Creamy Vanilla, Orange Blossoms and more. I’d also say our sophisticated packaging sets us apart as well as our motto, “Being You is Our Idea of Cool.” As a brand, we encourage and support individuality. For all kids and any hair type—our mission is to build confidence and inspire originality.

Pamela: What’s next for SoCozy and Cozy’s Cuts for Kids?
Cozy: SoCozy is really growing leaps and bounds. We’re increasing our distribution by teaming up with new retail partners in different verticals and expanding our product offerings – it’s an exciting time! In fact, I’m thrilled to share that our new Splash collection (for swimmer’s hair) will be hitting shelves this month- just in time for summer.

Pamela: How do you find time for YOU in your busy world? AKA what do you love to do during Meaningful Me Moments?
Cozy: I wake up an extra hour early so I have time for myself physically, mentally and emotionally- which makes me happy. By starting my day on a positive note with meditation, a good workout and family time- I’m able to pass on that positive energy to my family and colleagues. I think it’s important to lead a healthy lifestyle. When you feel happy and strong you can perform at your optimal best- whether that’s at home or the workplace. I’m actually hitting a Soul Cycle class with my team later- and we’re all looking forward to it.

Pamela: Quick, you only have 2 minutes to prep and pamper your face. What are you top makeup/skin products?
Cozy: I’m honestly not a big makeup person- it only takes me about two minutes to apply. I’m currently loving IT Cosmetics mascara and then I use eyeliner and BECCA blush. For me, it’s more about my hair. I use our new SoCozy Boing products for my curly hair and then I’m out the door.

Pamela: What’s your Happy Formula for managing marriage, two kids, your growing business, and finding time for yourself?
Cozy: The secret to my happy formula is to not view my marriage, kids, business, etc. inseparable compartments. I believe in teams and I’m just one part of those teams. Whether it’s my marriage, my business, child rearing- it’s all a team effort. I also take one day at a time and do my best to stay focused and present in each moment.

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Currently reading Start With Why by Simon Sinek. I love motivational books.

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I hope my kids think mom prepared them for everything that comes their way in life- and that they feel confident in themselves to go after their dreams.

Motherhood is everything! Nothing will ever prepare you for how incredible it is and how it changes you in the best possible ways.

The best advice my mom ever gave me was that everyone complains they don’t have enough time. However, she told me that if I wake up an hour earlier everyday… it’s the equivalent of adding an extra day to your week. That advice has always stayed with me and that’s why I start my day at 5am. Having extra time is so empowering.

 

Want more momBOSS inspiration? Check out my interviews with DivaMoms founder Lyss Stern and fashion designer Ramy Sharp of Ramy Brook

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momBOSS interview: Lyss Stern founder DivaMoms.com

Diva, it’s not a word most women use in a positive light. But, don’t be turned off by the term “diva”, Lyss Stern managers her own world with grace, confidence and divalysscious style. As for founder of DivaMoms.com, a multi-platform mom-focused media brand, Lyss turned her passion for sharing the go-to resources for the well-heeled mom into a brand that has her as the go-to mom whisperer for, well, everything you could possibly need in and around NYC. As a friend, she’s been my 411 for cool events, must-read books, and, of course, the latest updates on where to go for the perfect massage. Enjoy this momBoss interview with Lyss Stern.

Pamela Pekerman: How would you describe the DivaMoms brand and what you do?

Lyss Stern: Twelve years ago, before marketers were even using social media marketing to target moms, I created Divalysscious Moms as a way to get my groove back after giving birth to my first child and help other mothers find themselves post-baby. Today, with a database of a million moms across the country, DivaMoms is the premier network and event company for the New York area’s well-heeled moms.

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Lyss Stern with Kelly Ripa, hosting Camp Livalyssious in the Hamptons (Photo: heidi green photography // www.heidigreen.com)

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Lyss Stern with Rosie Pope, hosting event (Photo: heidi green photography // www.heidigreen.com)

Pamela: In an average day what would you pack into the 7am-9pm grind?
Lyss: At 6:30am Blakey Bleu (my 2-yea- old daughter) wakes me up for MILK. The day begins with checking emails, glimpsing at the online newspapers, and getting the kids ready for school. NO day is the same day! I try and get to either Exhale for a Core Fusion Class or Flywheel Spin class, in the morning, after school drop off. Then it’s shower and ready to tackle the day. This can mean anything from going to a lunch at Fred’s, a few Skype calls, running to a baseball game, taping a segment on Fox News, writing my next book with my co-author, making calls, feeding the kids dinner, could be going out for dinner with my husband and or a Broadway Show.

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Lyss’ daughter Blake.

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Lyss’s oldest son Jackson.

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Lyss’ younger son Oliver.

Pamela: I love that you make marriage a priority. So many moms, just focus on the kids, and forget about the man in their life.
Lyss: My husband and I try and have a #divadatenight alone at least once a week. And, then, honestly, I try and take a bath every night before bed (remember the commercial Calgon take me away) and I hit the pillow. Lights OUT. Nothing can wake me. It’s always a long, full day.

Pamela: You launched DivaMoms after the birth of your first son. Did you have a vision/grand plan or what it just an outlet?
Lyss: I honestly did not have any grand visions. I started a blog.. DivaLysscious Moms and took it one day at a time. Now, there’s no stopping me. My eye is on the grand prize.

Pamela: It seems like you’re getting close that that grand prize. In the past 12 years you’re written a book, hosted high-profile events including your Mom Mogul Breakfast, been tapped by top lifestyle brands to be an ambassador. Many moms have dreams, they never chase. What would you say to a mom who’s searching for the courage to follow her passion outside home life?
Lyss: I would say do what your heart tells you to follow. Do not listen to anyone telling you you can’t do it. You can! Be prepared. It’s not going to be unicorns and cotton candy along the way. There will be lots of bumps in the road. Stay focused! If I listened to everyone telling me that I should not start a business – don’t get me started. Most people laughed behind my back and to my face. Some told me I had postpartum depression, and should go back to bed. Well, here we are now.

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Lyss Stern with Fifth Shades of Gray autheor E.L. James, hosting event for James’ new book (Photo: heidi green photography // www.heidigreen.com)

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Lyss Stern with Fifth Shades of Gray autheor E.L. James, hosting event for James’ new book (Photo: heidi green photography // www.heidigreen.com)

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Lyss Stern with Donna Karen and family, in the Hamptons (Photo: heidi green photography // www.heidigreen.com)

Pamela: Wow. You definitely have that hustle spirit. What tip would you give a stay-at-home mom who wants to launch a business, but also wants or needs to be the daycare pick/dropoff, grocery shopper, laundry manager, etc.

Lyss: Ask for help. Ask a neighbor, friend, relative and/or significant other. It’s Okay to ask for help. The worst thing is that someone will say no.

Pamela: What tools/services/people help you manage your momBOSS life?

Lyss: My mom #Nanadoll is very helpful with the kids. She goes above and beyond as a grandmother. I also have a very supportive husband (yes.. we argue). However, at the end of the day, he has my best interest at hand. He’s an amazing father, and my children are very lucky to have him. I am all about the family schedule, we go over this every Sunday together. My close friends also help me keep it together. Oh, and, don’t laugh, I still use post-it notes for everything, and I write myself reminder emails all day long. I also really try and power down before getting into bed at night. It helps me have a much better nights sleep.

Pamela: You, sleep? When. I here you have a new TV project called “Bad Moms In History“. I think most moms, sadly, would say they belong on that list at some point or another. What’s the premise for this show?
Lyss: It’s an animated web series written and created by myself and Carrie Seim, for Scripps. Bad Moms officially launched last May, with six hilarious animated videos riffing on famously bad mom characters from cinema history. Each 2-minute episode stars a comically awful movie mother (think Joan Crawford in “Mommie Dearest” or the wicked step-mother from “Cinderella”). The fun twist is that each video puts a cheeky modern spin on these stories by bringing in present-day stereotypes like helicopter parenting, green-washing, and more. Whether you’re watching as a parent (and perhaps begrudgingly see some of your own bad habits) or as a child reflecting on your own parents’ ways, the tongue-in-cheek cartoons are sure to make you laugh and appreciate all the good things about your relationship with your kids, parents, and partner.

Pamela: Hosting. Hustling. Producing. Oh, and doing the daily mom duties. How do you find time for YOU in your busy world? #MeaningfulMeMoments are a must.

Lyss: That’s one of the reasons I wrote my first book, If You Give a Mom a Martini: 100 Ways to Find 10 Blissful Minutes for Yourself.  Sure, you love your kids, but your pre-mom self—the one who savored a glass of wine after work and exercised on her lunch break instead of shopping for baby food—had its perks, too. The “time-outs” in this book are for moms who love their kids, but also long for a few minutes when they’ve got nowhere to be, no one to listen to, and no diapers to change. One of my favorite suggestions from the book is to leave the kids to shop with your husband, while you slip into Brookstone for a rest in one of their giant massage chairs. I’ll take a nap whenever, wherever.

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Lyss’ first book, If You Give a Mom a Martini, published in 2009.

Pamela: Quick, you only have 2 minutes to prep and pamper your face. What are your top makeup/skin-care products?
Lyss: Terry Baume de Rose for my lips, Cle de Peau under eye concealer, and Valmont skin care products.

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Currently reading The Nest by Cynthia D’Aprix Sweeney

Currently drinking a large iced coffee in the morning and evening a large Chardonnay

I hope my kids think mom is FabULyssly Fierce and Fun

Motherhood is a new adventure each and every day

The Best advice my mom every game me was always wear your lips and blush. You never know who you might run into

(PS If you’ve met Lyss’ fiercely fabulous mom, who would know that she never has a hair out of place. She owns my #AlwaysBeYourBestYou motto.)

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*momBOSS – She’s nurturing, compassionate and focused. She’s always directing, managing and scheduling. She IS home. She is the link that brings everyone together. She is her own woman. She is not perfect. She is juggling and trying to find her happy formula for a meaningful life. Her motto is Always Be Your Best You, which could mean a messy kitchen takes a back seat to applying mascara. 

Are you a momBOSS or know one that we should know about? Leave a comment below and you/she could be featured next. Check back every Wednesday for an interview with an incredible mom that, I hope, will inspire you to find your happy formula, whatever that may mean for you.

PS In case you missed it, I’m hosting a new mom lifestyle show Pamela+Vanessa #momsandwhine.

Check out  Pamela+Vanessa #momsandwhine every Monday 9:30pm EST. We’ll be laughing, whining, and wining. And we have amazing weekly giveaways!

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What Does Mom Really Want for Mothers Day? Mother’s Day Gift Guide – Sleep, Sanity, feeling Sexy on NBC6 Miami in the Mix

Working hard … hardly working?

Quando estoy en Miami, trabajar es un placer. (ya I speak a little Spanish.) If I made errors, sorry. No tengo una persona con quien hablar, tambien no estudio Espanol despues de diez y ocho anos.)

Back to our English program.

So, I was in Miami, last week, taping  my version of the perfect Mother’s Day Gift Guide. The segment, which airs today at 11:30am on NBC6 Miami in the Mix, spotlights my three Mother’s Day desires – Sleep, Sanity and Sex. Now, before you get your Brazilian thongs in a tizzy, I didn’t actually go on a day-time show watched by moms and their toddlers, and say “sex”. My mother is a Children’s Manners and Social Skills Coach, after all – shameless plug for Ask Malvina! The phrase I used was “feeling sexy”, something many women don’t think about, at least not enough, once they enter mommy land.

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Here’s a run down of what was featured.

Feeling SEXY – This is about feeling good, taking care of yourself, and having that sizzling twinkle in your eye. (Alas, nipple tassels were not allowed in my PG13 segment)

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  • Ambrielle intimates exclusively at JCPenney ($10-$38) – Sexy, yet sensual, and a great price point, this is the prrr-fect gift idea for the man in your life to show that he still views you as his sexy kitten.
  • NEOVA DNA Damage Control SILC SHEER SPF 40($45) – My mom always said I should take care of my skin. Now I can give her a gift that will boost up our sun-safe and skin-care-loving game. This product is triple beauty threat, providing broad-spectrum sun protection, a photo finish sheer tint that evens out the skin (hello Mother’s Day  photos) and it repairs damage caused by previous sun exposure. That last bit is thanks to DNA repair enzymes which support and accelerate the body’s natural repair system, slowing formation of fine lines, wrinkles, sun spots, and discolorations. Make a beauty basket (I find great baskets at the dollar store) and get mom NEOVA Refining Eye Lift ($56) and DNA Total Repair ($99).

SLEEP – It’s such a simple task, and, yet, so hard for a mom to properly complete. Show mom love and giver her the time and the tools to recharge, so she can continue to hold down the fort! #MeaningfulMeMoments

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  • Remedy Heat Sensitive Memory Foam Sleep Mask w/ Music Input ($16.10 Overstock.com) – Even if the kids are being load, the hubby can hardly manage the situation and its daylight outside, this sleep mask has you covered it total darkness. Plus it has built-in headphones, so you can zen out to Buddhist nirvana sounds or Kurt Cobain Nirvana sounds.
  • Art Naturals Essential Oil Diffuser ($29.99, Overstock.com) – Mom can calm her nerves and set the mood for a good night’s sleep, with this beautiful ultrasonic oil diffuser. I love that it’s super quiet. Duuhh, I’m trying to sleep!
  • Alder Creek Lavender French Flower Bucket ($26.99, Overstock.com) – In the mood for a quick fix, nothing like a lavender scented basket. Useful. Peaceful. Done.

SANITY – Mom, by nature, is not sane. How can she be? Have you seen her to-do lists (yes, multiple lists, in multiple places in the office, kitchen, car, beg ….) Help her try to keep it together with organizational and inspirational essentials.

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  • Burlington Stores (Jewelry Box and Journal $4-$38) Motherhood can be maddening, and sometimes you just need to get your thoughts out there, journaling is great outlet. I found so many beautiful options at my favorite off-price retailer Burlington Stores. Keep walking those aisles and you’ll likely find other goodies like a jewelry box. Pop in a bracelet as a gift within a gift. Moms love surprises – at least this one does. Hint, hint, family.
  • Erin Condren Organization & Home Décor Items ($6-$75) – All hail the queen of organizational chicness. I have so many items from this brand, but the personalized schedule pad (which lives in my kitchen) if my life safer. Everyone knows what’s goes on, who needs to eat what, who’s traveling, who’s picking up kids, etc. I’m also in love with the Picture This! Acrylic Tray ($75) which is great to use a tray to hold my book and coffee if I’m going to read in bed. Not sure when that fantasy will happen … but I love to dream big.
  • Cooks 10-Cup Thermal Carafe Coffee Maker ($120) – So I’m not a coffee drinker (tea is my poison), but for those who bean it up, this machine is ideal for the mom who’s always getting pulled away from her warm cup. Thanks to a thermal carafe, mom’s cup stays hot for hours. Plus, she can program the coffee maker up to 24 hours in advance, so her cup is waiting for her at 7am, 6am, 5am (5am can not be managed without caffeine.)

Special thank you to Johanna Gomez, who beautifully filling in as host of Miami 6 in the Mix, while my friend Roxy Vargas is on maternity leave. FYI Johanna is a sassy mama of 3, who’a originally from New York. Check her out on Instagam.

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