Sanctuary Spa Arizona Mom Pampering Getaway

Mom Pampering Getaway is Selfcare not Selfish, review Sanctuary Camelback Resort & Spa

Hey Mamas,

I love my at-home Mom Sunday Spa Night, but it’s also nice to plan a weekend pampering getaway.

Two weeks, I was able to scrape (yes, scrape) together child care for five days, in order to tack on a two-day pampering getaway onto an existing two-day charity gathering.

Back in October, when the Vasculitis Foundation decided to hold our board meeting in Scottsdale Arizona, I had no objections. Sun, sleep and the opportunity to spa-it-up in the dessert during winter in NYC – sign me up. (Side bar: this was when I still had some part time help I could call upon to fil-in when I needed to fly somewhere for work.)

Sanctuary Spa Arizona Mom Pampering Getaway

Sanctuary Spa Arizona Mom Pampering Getaway

Sanctuary Spa Arizona Mom Pampering Getaway

I’ll tell you more about the Vasculitis Foundation, my amazing late father, and my passionate commitment to empowering and educating the vasculitis community, in a post later this week.

For now, let’s talk about getaways. Whether we can plan them on a whim, or need to block out dates a year in advance, a solo spa trip, or moms-only getaway is a must for my mental sanity.

I need time to wake up to myself, tend to my own wellness with no thought of anyone else, be surrounded by women that understand my daily mama hustle, and spa-it up from head to toe.

The Sanctuary Resort & Spa in Scottsdale provided me with the perfect setting for complete relaxation – minutes away from breathtaking hikes, tranquil décor with views of the Praying Monk and Camelback Mountain, and let’s not forget their Asian-inspired spa.

The irony of the trip, is that my two and half days of pampering really amounted to less than one full day (thanks to food poising) but I made it work – night time spa appointment and a morning hike before our (went with my mama BFF, my sister

) flight back to New York City.

Whether it’s a one-day getaway at a local spa (here in NYC, I’ve heard great reviews of Sojo Spa Club) or a cross-country trek to the amazing Sanctuary Resort & Spa, a trip like this is like a major battery pack for your mind, body and soul.

Sanctuary Spa Arizona Mom Pampering Getaway

Sanctuary Spa Arizona Mom Pampering Getaway

For many of us, it’s not easy getting way, but this is where we need to involve our families and let them know how important it is for our sanity – yes, I mean sanity – to get some away time that is ALL ABOUT YOU.

As mothers, we are often giving without asking, protecting our family without protecting ourselves, nurturing without feeding our own souls. A pampering weekend isn’t selfish, it’s self-preservation and, yes, sanity salvation!

If you agree, I’d love to hear your comments.

Also, if you have a getaway you love, drop a comment and let our mama community know which wellness retreats or spas rock your world.

Sanctuary Spa Arizona Mom Pampering Getaway

Sanctuary Spa Arizona Mom Pampering Getaway

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BTL Ultra Femme 360, Reclaim Your Sexual Game

Hey Mamas,

Can we talk about that thing we never about?

Can we talk about the mama drama we experience in the bedroom after pushing out those babies?

Can we talk about women’s intimacy health issues?

Ladies, can we talk about sex, and enjoying it once again?

Recently, I completed a three-part series of  weekly treatments of BTL Aesthetics Ultra Femme 360. This procedure is the newest vaginal rejuvenation treatment that using radio frequency heat to stimulate collagen production and improve blood flow to the downstairs area. This helps heighten sensitivity – winning – while also improve the overall look of the external lips.


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It’s a non-surgical, virtually painless alternative to vaginoplasty and labiaplasty procedures.  BTL Ultra Femme 360 uses radio-frequency technology to heat internal and external tissues in your most intimate of areas.

A water ­based gel is applied to the skin of the downstairs area, and the radio frequency energy is delivered in pulses as a tip that looks just like male genitals is moved across the area.

The tip is inserted into your vaginal area, releasing heat in a full 360 uniform way. The heat helps the body’s natural processes to stimulate collagen production and restore the vaginal and vulvar areas to a more youthful, pre-pushing-out-baby status.

It takes about 8-minutes for the inner massage (ya, think of it as a heated massage), and 8-minutes for the external area. External is more for the appearance of your vaginal area, helping with labial remodeling. Goodbye floppy outer lips!

I did three sessions, spaced one to two weeks apart. You can do anywhere from 3-4 session to achieve the best results. I may opt to do a yearly maintenance treatment. We’ll see.

For now, I’m VERY happy.

BTL Ultra Femme 360 – What it Feels Like

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I didn’t experience any  irritation during or after the procedure. It simply feels like a warming sensation.

There were a few times when I felt the heat was too much, so my amazing nurse practitioner at JUVA Skin & Laser Center turned down the intensity. She also added more gel, which cooled off the area and I was able to continue in seconds.

Really, it’s so simple and easy, you can do this procedure during your lunch break or while you book a baby sitter for one hour. Ya, book that sitter and do this self-care essential. You and your sexual health deserve it!

BTL Ultra Femme 360 – Where it Helps

  • Increase Blood Flow to Clitoris

  • Increase Sensitivity & Improve Orgasm

  • Plump Outer Genital Lips 

  • Lift and Firm of External General Skin Folds 

  • Tightening of Vaginal Opening  

  • Improvement in Vaginal Lubrication

  • Improvement in Stress Incontinence

Obviously, results will vary. And, you must go to a reputable medical office.BTL Ultra Femme 360 Pamela Pekerman_1

If you’re in the New York City area, I strongly recommend visiting JUVA SKin & Laser Center. Their staff is attentive, friendly and super knowledgeable about the latest and greatest ways to keep it tight and sexy all over.

This was my first ever procedure, all-be-it non-invasive, and I was so hesitant. But, I knew I needed to address my intimacy health issues and provide myself with the utmost love and self care to enjoy bedroom activities.

Everyone at JUVA made me feel comfortable, and provided me with all the knowledge needed to be ready for, what turned out to be, a truly simple, safe and very satisfying experience.

BTL Ultra Femme 360 – Love Your Whole Life

In addition to this procedure, I recommend every woman begin to incorporate pelvic floor exercises into your daily wellness routine.

We do not need to suffer with feminine intimacy issues, incontinence and other mama drama.

Start a conversation with your gynecologist or dermatologist or your physical therapist or your girlfriends about your body post baby. Help is there, you just need to be honest with what’s going on with your body.

Listen to your body. Love your body. Use your body, in good, sexual health!

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DISCLAIMER: This procedure was provided to be free of charge. I did not promise a positive review, but an honest review. All words and opinions are 100% my own. All benefits are 100% my own, too! You will NEVER read anything here that is not honest and vetted by me. No mama has time for bullsh*t. 

4 Simple Pelvic Floor Exercises for New Moms & All Moms

Hey Mamas,

Pregnancy f—, I mean, messes, your body.

One thing many of us don’t hear enough about, until it’s too late, is the importance of pelvic floor exercises.

The pelvic floor muscles hold the pelvic organs in place, we’re talking bladder, rectum and uterus. You can feel the pelvic floor muscles in action if you squeeze as if your preventing yourself from urinating. Click here for a good visual.

Now, that you know what they are, you’re next thoughts might be, is a weak pelvic floor causing:

  • pain during sexual activity
  • week bladder, aka urinary incontinence
  • constipation
  • lower back pain

At one point or another, I could have checked off all of the above. After countless visits to gastroenterologist, rheumatologist, chiropractor and a slew of tests, I finally found salvation with a pelvic floor specialized physical therapist at Duffy & Bracken.

If you are pregnant, talk to your doctor about pelvic floor exercises you can do during your pregnancy. The more you do while you are pregnant, the better off you’ll be once the baby is out. (Did you know in France physical therapy is part of post-natal care?!!

now, here are some pelvic floor exercises I do, that have greatly improves all – ALL – of my symptoms.

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While lying on your back, tighten your lower abdominal (as if you are about to poop or the feeling of bringing your belly button into floor below you), squeeze your buttocks and then raise your buttocks off the floor to create a bridge with your body.

Hold for 2 seconds and release. Repeat 20 times.

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Stay in raised bridge, as explained above, continue to squeeze your buttocks. The, press your left heel firming into the floor and extend your right leg fully. Make sure to continue squeezing your butt, so that you’re not engaging your lower back.

Hold for 2-seconds. Return your leg to the ground and repeat with the opposite leg. Repeat 10 times on each leg.

If you’re just starting out, you should fully lower the bridge and rest. Work up to a point where you can do a few leg extensions without lowering the bridge or sacrificing form and that good squeeze.

Pelvic Floor Exercises: MODIFIED PLANK ON ELBOWS

Pelvic Floor Exercises modified plankLay face down on the mat and push yourself into a plank. Make sure your elbows are directly under your shoulder blades. Keep your pelvis tucked in. You should feel mostly glutes, core and upper shoulders working.

Neutralize the neck and spine by looking at a spot on the floor about a foot beyond the hands. Your head should be in line with your back.

Hold the position for 20 seconds. As you get more comfortable with the move, hold your plank for as long as possible without compromising form or breath.

Pelvic Floor Exercises: BIRD DOG

Pelvic Floor Exercises Bird DogPelvic Floor Exercises Bird DogBegin on all fours with your hands directly under your shoulders and your knees directly under your hips. Pull your abs in to your spine. (Imagine someone pulling your belly button from the inside.)

Keeping your back and pelvis stable, reach your right arm forward and left leg back. Don’t allow the pelvis to rock side to side as you move your leg behind you. Focus on not letting the rib cage sag toward the floor.

Reach through your left heel to engage the muscles in the back of the leg and your butt. Return to the starting position, placing your hand and knee on the floor.

Do the same movement on the other side. Repeat 10 times on each side.

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Mom Sunday Spa Night: Neocutis Firming Neck Cream & More

Hey Mamas,

Your face is glowing. You’ve become a serum super worker.

But, what the heck is happening with that neck?

The delicate skin under your chin – okay, I’ll stop with the rhymes … can you tell that’s what I’m working on with the kiddos, now? #momlife – your neck and décolletage area, probably don’t get a lot of love.
Since adding another beauty ritual to your daily routine may not be time-appealing to most of us mamas, here’s a firming neck cream you should try adding at least, per week, like to your Mom Sunday Spa Night routine.

Firming Neck Cream

TRY Neocutis Micro Firm Neck & Decollete Rejuvenating Complex $135

This cream is a delicate, yet powerful-punch of youth boosting ingredients that helps firm the neck and decollate, while also helping reduce fine lines and wrinkles.

Their secret is a Micro Protein Complex that’s packed with antioxidants, hyaloronic acid and moisturizers that boost collagen production, which encourages cell turnover for softer, brighter, and less saggy skin.

Did you plan on being the turkey for next year’s Thanksgiving party?

If you keep using this cream (ideally once or twice a day – ya, not just once per week) you will see results faster, and kiss the droopy neck goodbye.

The key is to start taking care of this area! If you’re in your 30s and don’t see too much sag or loss of contour in your chin/neck area, now it THE time to start feeding the area with great products like Neocutis Micro Firm Neck & Decollete Rejuvenating Complex.

Firming Neck Exercises

Throat pain concept. Young woman with touching her throat.

I have a few silly-looking, yet effective, exercise I try to do whenever I have a free minute – like while the pasta is cooking, or I need to step away from my computer and rest my eyes. I found several of these useful exercise, and some new ones, easily explained on

Firming Neck Cosmetic Treatments

If you’re looking for another fix, check out what world-renowned cosmetic surgeon, Dr. Lara Devgan had to share about neck firming treatments, in my recent Mommy Moments interview with her. She shared scoop about several firming neck treatments including the non-invasive Ultherarpy which uses ultrasound energy to lift and tighten the neck, chin and brow areas.