Save Your Marriage, Wear Lingerie Everyday

My husband and I don’t acknowledge Valentine’s Day. Even when we dated, it was never a special day because the core purpose of Valentine’s Day doesn’t make sense to us, especially to me. Why do I deserve only one day of special pampering and attention? Why does he deserve one day of special sex and affection? If you are too busy to acknowledge each other during the year, it’s time to reassess your priorities and your relationship.  
 
Ladies, why don’t you use the time around Valentine’s Day to take advantage of sales on seductive loungewear and kinky lingerie? If you value your marriage, burn your worn-out, alma mater t-shirt and start sleeping in something with a bit more sex appeal. I’m not suggesting we all need to wear S&M-style; outfits to bed or around the house – at least not every night – but if you are only devoting ONE DAY a year to sexuality, you are hurting your self-confidence, and slowly deteriorating your relationship.
 
Here are some great options for the bedroom.

Boudoir attire – give him something to think about at the office.
Sexy sleepwear – you can show it all off or leave a bit to the imagination.

And, here are some styles to wear around the house. Sweatpants should only be reserved for emergencies. A cozy robe is appropriate occasionally, and only for a few hours in the morning or evening. Ideally, there is something alluring and flag-pole lifting 😉 underneath!

Loungewear can be seductive without going overboard. 
Because my husband loves my bottom, leggings are my go-to at home. When I’m feeling the need for extra syncing, I turn to Yummie Tummie.  These leggings are amazing and are great after you give birth as a bonus body huger, in addition to your belly band. ($76)
 
Figleaves has a great thermal loungewear collection that’s flattering, warm and easy to wear even when you’re carrying a ten-month-old in your arms and a four-month-old in your belly. ($27-$118)
 
Layer this red Hanro, Woolen Lace Spaghetti Camisole under a through away cardigan for extra cozyness, and you’ll still be showcasing your fabulous body. ($115)
 
Tanks don’t mean cold, when you’re wearing Figleaves, Thermal Pointelle Thermal Cami. ($39)
Home attire can be as simple as a pair of leggings and a cotton tank. The key is that you’re not hiding your body. Likely, your man loves those seductive curves. Why not show them off? Nothing about any of the above looks is trashy, but it’s definitely kicking it up notch from baggy sweats and over sized shirts. I’m also a fan of wrap or faux wrap dresses, which you can layer over leggings if your house runs cold. 
I welcome your comments, as I’m sure you ladies will have a lot to say on this topic. Guys, feel free to chime i, as well. 
 

Another Baby Bump, Back to Back Pregnancy

Happy Monday and Good Morning! I’ve been up since 6:45am feeding and playing with baby Ilana. She’s growing up so fast; I can’t believe we are already planning the 1-year birthday party. Fortunately, I’ll be able to relive those first few baby-month-milestones very soon.
 
Oh, did I mention I’m pregnant, again?!!!!!! 
Showing off the 4-month belly after an event.
Showing off the 3-month belly on my babymoon.

PS The first trimester was brutal, which is why I’ve been MIA. So, it turns out having one after the other requires a bit more rest than I anticipated. Off to bed for 45 minutes before Ilana Rose gets up from her morning nap. 🙂 

 

Kids & Moms Accessorize Sneakers with Shwings

Sneakers and I just don’t go together. I purchased a pair two years ago when I got a trainer and he said what I was putting on my feet was not going to cut it. So, like a savvy maxxinista, I went to TJMaxx and got a pair for $39.99, obviously.
Fast forward to motherhood …  I used to walk the baby in ballet flats or my neon orange Yosi Samra flip flops (the same ones Sarah Jessica Parker wears, just saying). However, when the baby falls asleep, I now like to squeeze in some stretching, lunges and standing abdominal exercises. #AlwaysBeYourBestYou! This calls for sneaker time.
To add razzle dazzle to my sneaks, I accented with Shwings, decorative wings for your sneakers. Aside from making you feel like a cool mom that doesn’t mind laughing and playing with silly fashion, Shwings is an economical way to spruce up old sneakers. OMG. Ladies, I had no idea how much sneakers cost (refer to lines one and two in this post). It’s high-way robbery! Go to an off-price retailer like T.J.Maxx or Marshalls, get a pair of sneakers for $19-$39 and buy some Shwings for your kids. It’s a great way for them to personalize their shoes and begin to see the value of style and the joy it brings.
Me and my Shwings can’t wait to go for a walk, tonight.  Join us for a healthy, stylish stroll at 6pm EST. 
P2 Kids – accessorizing sneakers with Shwings 

Family Time, Be Still on September 11th

We all have a story from that day, the day when many of us experienced a loss of innocence never to be regained — September 11, 2001.
 
It was my second day of college; I had just parted ways with my mother, on the Q train, as she had a training class in Brooklyn and I had a few more stops until my arrival at NYU. Mine was the last train to go over the bridge. The first tower was already hit and, like most passengers, I assumed a little helicopter had an accident. By the time I got to 14th Street in Manhattan, subway service was halted. I ended up walking down to 4th street and getting in line for the payphone. I was alone, with very few familiar faces, no way of getting home and no way for my parents to come and claim me. Before noon, I still had the option of walking over the bridge back to Brooklyn, but I was petrified that a bomb would hit me. I stayed underground at NYU’s gym facility until I decided to run to 14th street with a few other girls and spend the night at a friend of an acquaintance’s dorm. It was an odd day. I remember being outside watching the towers fall. I remember thinking I was in a movie. I remember falling asleep and dreaming of being home the following day. As you can imagine, this is an abridged version of what happened that day. There were many faces, many frantic phone calls, many rumors, and plenty of heroic moments of kids going to help at Ground Zero or give blood.
As I sit hear listening to the 9/11 Memorial services, I find it difficult to share a Pam’s Pick. Can I really tell you about my favorite lip/cheek stain, today? Do you want to know about the coolest play gym I found for my baby or the coolest, new hotel in NYC?
 
Life goes on and upkeeping our style and beauty routine can only help us get through difficult times. But, can’t we just stand still? Can we allocate this day as a national day or remembrance? Can’t we have a moment to properly reflect?
 
So, today’s Pam’s Pick is family. I’m devoting most of my day to my beloved daughter Ilana Rose. We already had a pleasant walk, this morning, and we’ll do play time in the afternoon. In the evening I’m planning a nice dinner for the hubby. Today, obsess over your family a little bit more than usual. Call your grandma one extra time. Give your children one extra kiss. Give you hubby one extra piece of chocolate! And, if you’re blessed to have both your parents, plan to have them over this weekend or do an extended Skype call. And, of course, do it all in mascara; just make sure it’s make sure it’s waterproof.

Pam’s Pick 9.11.13 – Family Time, Stillness, Love, Making Memories

New Mom MUST HAVE Kiinde Kozii Baby Bottle Warmer

The last thing any parent wants to do at 2 am is think about warming up a bottle. Is it too hot, too cold? What about unfreezing stored milk?!?

Three months into my daughter’s life and I’m a little wiser and more prepared for number two++, thanks to the addition of the Kiinde Kozii on my kitchen counter top. Not only is this product the smartest bottle warmer on the market thanks to an easy-to-use water bath, it also features a sleek design. One thing all new parents hate is how their house gets taken over by baby products, which is why I shop for products that not only solve problems, but are aesthetically pleasing. If you’re a Kozii fan, leave a comment below. I’d love to hear from other moms.

Drugstore.com NY Baby Show GIVEAWAY, P2Giveaway

Calling all the fabulous moms and moms-to-be! This weekend, May 18th and 19th, is the annual New York Baby Show, the largest consumer baby show in NYC. I got my hands on one of their gift bags, sponsored by Drugstore.com, which will be given to VIP’s like Rosie Pope star of Pregnant in Heels.
 

Here are three changes for you to WIN:
1.Follow this blog via Google+, and leave a comment below sharing your go-to beauty/style tip for being a MILF – Mom Is Looking Fabulous
2. Follow @PamelaPekerman on twitter, and retweet “I’m a #NeverSurrender mom w #style hoping 2 win #P2giveaway from @Drugstoredotcom@PamelaPekerman@NewYorkBabyShow
3.Follow PamelaPekerman on Instagram, and regram the below Drugstore.com image with the Following line “I’m a #NeverSurrender mom w #style hoping 2 win #P2giveaway from @Drugstoredotcom@PamelaPekerman @NewYorkBabyShow”
**One tweet/instagram per day, maximum. Contest ends Friday, May 17th at 8pm EST. One winner will be selected on Friday at 9pm EST 
 
One winner will receive a VIP swag bag from Drugstore.com featuring Avent Natural 9oz bottle, MD Moms Baby Silk Babysafe Sunscreen Towelettes, Diapers Biodegradable Wipes, Weleda Baby Calendula Shampoo & Bodywash, Babo Botanicals Clean Sport Shampoo & Wash, Cucumber Alo Vera, Gerber Graduates Grabbers, Squeezable Fruit, Banana Blueberry, Pampers Stages Sensitive Wipes, Skinstore.com bundle – Kelo-Cote Advanced Formula Scar Gel, and Belli Pure Radiance Facial Sunscreen.

Mom Musings: My First Mother’s Day as a Mom!!

Happy Mother’s Day to all the stylish, sexy, & trying to stay sane moms! Oh, and that includes ME.

It is with great honor and joy that I introduce you to my daughter, Ms. Ilana Rose, born April 4, 2013. The past few weeks of motherhood inauguration have been fabulous, fun, occasionally frustrating, but thoroughly fulfilling. I’ve shared, and will continue to share, daily glimpses via my Instagram, Twitter and Facebook channels.

Ms. Ilana Rose

I can’t begin to express the emotions that charge through my body, the happiness that oozes from my pores, the exhaustion that requires major adjustments, the thrill of seeing my husband morph into Super Dad, the blessing of giving my mom her 3rd grandchild/ my in-laws their 1st/ & my grandmother her 3rd great-grand daughter, the urge to constantly clean, the desire to still be desired, the enjoyment of Ilana’s smell … in all forms, the need to get organized, the pain of not being able to share this with my father, the delight of knowing he’s with me through Ilana, the pleasure of a stroll with the stroller, the satisfaction of a content baby you just fed/changed/swaddled and put to bed, the comfort of having a sister who’s done it all … and kept labeled boxes of everything I would need when the time came, the appreciation of under eye cream/concealer/tightening body cream/boob tube/rose water spritz/ etc., the tranquility of sitting in the nursery, the burned fingers from sterilizing bottles, the excitement of fitting into Herve Leger again – oh ya!, the terrifying md.com searches –  never again, the peacefulness of watching Ilana wake up, the fear/fun?!? of sharing my accessories closet, the entertaining milk factory sleepwalking moooo dance, the MIRACLE OF BEING A MOM.

Ms. Ilana Rose and mommy, month one**
**proper bedding from Olio did not arrive at time of this picuter 🙂
Here’s to the journey ahead, full of, as my gal Lyss of DivaMoms, says “strollers and stilettos”. Or, as I like to put it, may I NeverSurrender my sexuality, style and sassiness regardless of what lies ahead. Wait, is that drool on my Barefoot Dreams robe? Darn it! Ah well, the sexy lace number underneath is more appealing for the hubby anyway . . .

Pregnancy Exercise Tips & Preventing Leg Swelling with Fitness Expert Leah Keller

I’ve been extremely MIA on this blog, in the third trimester of my pregnancy. Once I wobbled into month six, the fatigue hit me like a ton of bricks. Now, with about twenty days left to go, a serge of energy has washed over my body. If you haven’t been following me on twitter (one of the few things I have managed to maintain), then we have a LOT of catching up to do.

Several weeks ago, I had the pleasure of being introduced to Leah Keller, an expert in pre- and postnatal fitness with a proven track record of restoring clients to fitness levels that surpass their pre-baby shape. “Sign me up,” I told my friend Anna, who handles Leah’s PR. If you’re not in NYC, have no fear. This Mother’s Day, Leah is launching The Dia Method(tm), a home exercise system that equips every mom to embrace the best body of her life.
Leah Keller, Pre- and Postnatal Fitness Expert

With access to such a wonderful fitness guru, I had to pick her brain on what we belly bump babes can do to maintain our sexy figures during pregnancy. You’ll notice, many questions revolve around my personal pet peeve – leg cramps and swelling!

Pamela Pekerman: My motto is Never Surrender, so I’ve been very conscious to avoid swelling by eating plenty of potassium rich foods and also staying active. What exercises tips do you preach for pregnant women to help prevent leg swelling?
Leah Keller: Moderate cardio is essential. It can be as simple as a brisk, 30-minute walk six days a week. If you have access to a pool, alternate brisk walking days with 30-minutes of swimming. Frequent, moderate cardiovascular exercise does wonders for circulation and blood flow. **

PP:How about all-over body water retention?

LK:Water retention during pregnancy is usually a sign of inadequate protein and, as counter-intuitive as this sounds, inadequate consumption of salts and water. This all relates to albumin synthesis in the liver and how it changes during pregnancy. If a pregnant woman is retaining water, I recommend consuming 80-120 grams of protein per day, adding one cup of salty (not low-sodium) soup broth to the daily diet, and drinking more water. **

If pregnant, but not retaining water, continue to salt food to taste (trust your body to tell you how much salt it needs and monitor your protein consumption for a few days. If you’re consistently eating under 80 grams, add a little more protein to the diet as a preventative measure. And, continue drinking plenty of water. **

PP:Is there exercise we can do in the last month?

LK:During the final month of pregnancy, many of my clients feel great continuing with the workouts we performed together all along. This typically includes resistance training, moderate cardio, and light stretching. However, every pregnancy is different, so please listen to your body, consult your doctor, and adjust accordingly. If something doesn’t feel right, don’t do it. **

PP:What exercise should women avoid, especially in the third trimester?

LK:I’m not a fan of jogging during pregnancy because of hormone-induced joint laxity, which increases the risk of a sudden fall, but also because it strains the uterine ligaments. The impact of running or jumping combined with the weight of the uterus (during 3rd trimester, estimate 13 lbs. for baby + placenta + amniotic fluid, etc.) will easily overstretch the uterine ligaments. This dramatically increases your risk of uterine prolapse, a condition I would do everything in my power to avoid.

PP:Any other tips to help with pesky pregnancy issues woman may encounter?

LK:Elevating the legs for 10 minutes a day is helpful, especially after work or after a lot of standing. For severe leg swelling, compression tights help dramatically. **

PP:I’ve actually tested those out, myself. Preggers by Theraform is a great option to help with swelling and improve circulation. What else?
LK:Well, many of my clients also notice improvement when they soak in a warm (not hot) bath with Epsom salt for 10 minutes about twice a week. Magnesium from the Epsom salt absorbs through the skin to relax leg muscles and banish those excruciating calf cramps. **
PP:Please share your top exercises every pregnant woman should be doing to help stay fit and sexy throughout her pregnancy.
LK:First, Core Compressions, which is a foundational exercise of The Dia Method. Sit upright, either on the floor with your legs crossed or on a chair with your feet flat on the ground. Keep the spine lengthened and perfectly still. Rest both hands on your belly, upper and lower.
The Dia Method, by Leah Keller

Exhale as you tighten your abdominal muscles toward the spine. Repeatedly pulse the abdominal muscles tight to tighter, tight to tighter, exhaling with each slow and controlled squeeze. Close your eyes, and envision hugging your baby to the spine with each exhalation. This is a deep, subtle movement – yet powerfully effective. Start with 5 minutes a day. After one week, work up to 10 minutes a day (either 10 minutes all at once or 5 minutes twice a day). You are powerfully strengthening your core to keep you and your baby safe during pregnancy, labor with strength and bounce back fast. My second recommendation is Kegels. Work that pelvic floor! Lastly, do moderate cardio.**

PP: What are some great Kegel exercises to keep it right downstairs?

LK:During pregnancy, the muscle release is as important as the squeeze when it comes to Kegels. Always be sure that you’re completely opening and relaxing the pelvic floor between each muscle contraction. I recommend my clients perform 2-3 minutes a day of each kind of Kegel:

  • Elevator KegelsSlowly draw your entire pelvic floor up and in, holding it as high and tight as you can (feels like you’re trying not to pee your pants) for 10 seconds. Then slowly release and relax completely. Imagine yourself opening like a flower. Then repeat, squeezing your pelvic floor closed and up, up, up inside you. Hold for 10 seconds. Then soften, release, lower and open completely. Perform 10 elevator Kegels daily (about 2-3 minutes) to strengthen the endurance muscle fibers.
  • Sprint KegelsThese are power moves, working the fast-twitch muscle fibers in your pelvic floor. Squeeze as hard as you can, drawing quickly up and in. Then release completely. (Note: never bulge your pelvic floor forcefully downward.) Always draw ‘up & in’ when engaging the muscle and then simply allow it to relax and fall open between squeezes. Aim for 50 sprint Kegels (2-3 minutes) each day. **

PP:How can exercise aid in sleep disorders during pregnancy? And, what specifically would you recommend?

LK:No matter what you do, sleep can be frustratingly elusive during pregnancy, especially towards the end, as it’s virtually impossible to find a truly comfortable position and you’re getting up several times a night to empty your bladder. That said healthy activity during the day improves sleep quality. Exercise can help your body settle into biorhythms that help you fall asleep more easily and rest more deeply. I recommend working out early in the day, anytime up until about 4:00 pm. A very light workout can be fine later in the day, but avoid vigorous workouts that rev up your energy as bedtime draws near. Incorporating the following into your weekly routine: moderate cardiovascular exercise, resistance training that targets the postural imbalances of pregnancy, and light stretching. Perform core compressions and Kegels daily. **
** Consult your doctor before starting any exercises. The above is not meant to substitute instructions from your doctor/obg-yn.

Elisa Dahan Interview, Mackage Co-Creative Director, Stylish Mom & MILF Mom Is Looking Fabulous

With today being the official kickoff for Mercedes-Benz Fashion Week, here in New York, I’m thrilled to feature Mackage Co-Creative Director and uber-stylish mom of two Elisa Dahan. This Canadian-born designer is committed to crafting outwear that is sexy and sleek with a modern twist, and Elisa applied that alluring philosophy to her pregnancy and post-belly style routine. As you’ll see, she’s certainly early the MILF (Mom Is Looking Fabulous) title.

Elisa Dahan, Co-Creative Director Mackage

Pamela Pekerman: My motto on pregnancy and motherhood is: never surrender! How do you embody this motto in your life?

Elisa Dahan:Pregnancy is beautiful and sexy – show it off!
PP: What tips do you have for women who want to maintain their style while pregnant?
ED: Stretch fabrics will become your best friend throughout these nine months. The worst thing you can do to your bump is wear baggy clothing—bodycon pieces celebrate your belly and show off your curves.
PP: What was your biggest beauty issue during pregnancy?
ED: Stretch marks were most definitely something I wanted to avoid so I took preventative measures! Mama Mio creams work wonders – trust me!
PP: No need to convince me. I’m a huge fan, as well. Their Tummy Rub Oil and Boob Tube are part of my nightly ritual. Switching back to style, your specialty, what was your go-to outfit/item while pregnant, that made you feel fabulous?
Elisa Dahan with her husband and kids

ED: I would wear bodycon dresses or short shorts with a fitted blouse. Drawing attention to my legs made me feel sexy during my pregnancy. I think that all women should find one asset they love and flaunt it during their pregnancy

PP: We’re cut from the same cloth.  I don’t understand why a woman would want to all of a sudden drape herself in oversized, asexual clothing. Embrace the bellybody it’s key for your self-esteem and, of course, it keeps the chemistry in your relationship at full sizzle!
ED: Yes!
PP: Now, how do you teach your children the value of style, personal grooming and appearance, which clearly matter to you?
ED: My son is absorbing our sense of style and he wants to be just like us. All it takes is a little encouragement and your kids will be on board. My three year old son enjoys when I try clothes on him. When I dress him up, the first thing he’ll do is pull up his sleeves for an edgier look and then he’ll go to the mirror to check himself out.
PP: I hate the word “balance”, but you certainly have a on your plate. How do you incorporate motherhood, being a wife and a successful designer at Mackage, into your life?
ED: I love a challenge. If you want it all, it’s about making the time for what is important to you. I work hard, but I am also very domestic. To date, I have not bought pre-made baby food for my babies and I make dinner for my hubby almost every night, even after a long day at work. I love having a career, being a wife and a mom; it fulfills me and I wouldn’t have it any other way.
 
PP: I noticed you mentioned wife before mom. I often say that my husband is number one, and without that solid, romantic connection everything else can’t work, namely having a happy family. How do you make sure that you and your relationship are part of the equation, and it’s not just about the kids?  
ED: The key is to have date night with your other half weekly. It gives you both a chance to stop and reconnect. However, it is equally important to focus on yourself; I treat myself to a manicure every week and don’t know what’d I do without those 30 minutes.
Elisa Dahan

PP: In two lines, express your feelings about motherhood?

ED: There is absolutely nothing more genuine than the love of your kids. Being a mom is amazing and scary at the same time, because you are responsible to help shape your children and they trust you blindly. I lost my mother at a young age. I know how important the role is, as I missed having that warm person it every day.
 
PS Check out Elise’s blog www.infashionated.com.